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I have now been told countless times that SS is just testing me, it's just a faze. Any idea on how long this testing lasts? I feel like it's going to last forever after reading other posts on here. We have SS every second weekend. Last weekend was awful and I spent most of it in tears. But when his BM arrived to pick him up he cries as he doesn't want to leave. My partner tried to discuss with BM the way he's been treating me (SS is 3.5). All she says to BM is not to be mean to me and that's it. I personally feel like she's behind a lot of it.
I just wish BM would go to jail already! I'm tired of waiting to see the outcomes of all her court dates/appearances. She has FOUR court dates coming up in November, two on the Same Day! I would jump for joy if she was locked up for Xmas. I know, I shouldn't wish things like that, but damn it, I hate that woman.
Felt that I needed to vent having just returned from a night out after being made to feel like the woman that you barely see and most definitely shouldn't hear. I took it relatively calmly with it being the SO's birthday but inside I'm dying of embarrassment and humiliation. The SK's have no table manners and it's a competition as to who can shout loudest. I'm embarrassed to be in their company but to then get accused of nagging when I am invited into the conversation is just too much.
Ok it has been close to one year and I have not spoken to SS21 - he left for rehab for the 5th time in January and moved back into the state 6 months ago. He is trying to make amends to my DH which is fine - DH knows how I feel and when his name is mentioned we usually land up in a fight.
My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years, I have two children from a previous marriage and he has one.
His kid has always nagged at me with his inabilities to be honest, courteous, nice. He is none of those things and never was.
His bio mom has been in and out prison his entire life. She is the queen when it comes to dishonesty, theft, lying, cheating, etc. You get my drift. This is the same woman that my husband let his son spend time. It is no wonder in my mind that he is the way he is.
I was wondering what’s normal with long distance visitation schedules.
My DH doesn’t have a formal custody arrangement - his 15 year old daughter is currently living with her aunt and uncle out of state because she was so hateful and disrespectful towards me in my home that I would not allow her to continue live with us. (The BM had her parental rights terminated and is out of the picture).
Any Specifics which should be added into a Sole Custody Plans? Any ideas? My Dh will have sole custody. Mother has been gone for about 7 months and contacted our attorney stating my husband can have sole custody, but she wants four weeks in the summer and to alternate spring and winter breaks.
Does anyone have any specifics that would be a good idea to add in?
Thank you for your time
FDH asked me if he thought he could just call a truce with BM. What do you think?
I knew the fight with BM would leave him upset for a while. I guess he was thinking a lot about it yesterday, and it weighed heavily on him that they still have at least another 14 years to go. That's quite a while. He doesn't want to fight the whole time. He said we're happy with our life, she seems happy with her life, why can't we just live our lives and take care of the kids without being so aggressive?
In one of my blogs about 2 weeks ago,I told about how my SD11 did not get to go to a football game at school, so later that weekend I discovered she had wrote on a brand new pair of jeans graffiti-style,why? She said she did it out of "boredom", I knew it was because she did not get to go to game, she was reprimanded and punished. I threw the pants away in the city receptacle. Yesterday, I see she is wearing the jeans and asked how and why she retrieved them from the garbage, she denied doing it.
Tomorrow will be interesting...
It's time for SS4 IEP meeting (individualized education planning) because they think he has Autism (high-functioning). But since getting him into school he has improved greatly. 
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