A coworker of mine got married in August to a man with 2 daughters (6 and 9). This is her first marriage and she is very idealistic about being a stepmom. I’ve given her advice, told her to read Stepmonster and about disengaging. But she completely shrugged off my suggestions and says she loves being a stepmom and her SDs adore her. I resisted the urge to laugh.

I keep seeing the trend that the major problem skids are the ones from these types of relationships not divorce. They weren’t born into a two parent home which means they’re completely messed up from the start. It’s the skids who poop all over themselves, lie, cheat, steal, do drugs and ruin stepfamilies.

But it is not the normal skid problems of being upset over their parents divorce. There was no intact family. Their parents never lived together. They don’t even know what an intact family is.

It really does seem like society doesn’t want stepfamilies or work or to recognize and promote stepfamilies being successful. I guess it’s not as popular or compelling as the single mom sacrificing everything to raise their kids alone.

Seriously, SD15 has the most serious case of butthurt ever. She will never get over anything. She will never suck up anything and just move on. She has be the constantly victim and remind everyone of everything bad that has ever happened to her and make DH feel every guiltier over what he did or didn't do when she was little.

It's been nearly 10 years since BM lost custody but SD will never let anyone forget. She's been constantly in therapy and she will be in therapy for the rest of her life.