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Time to disengage….from the BM.
I have a relatively good life at home with DH and SD11. We all get on with life quite well. Don’t get me wrong, its been a long, long, long, hard road.
I’ve disengaged somewhat from SD11 in that, I leave the responsibility for parenting her up to DH. He wants it anyway, why fight it. In the beginning, I felt DH indulged her with things, but mostly his time. He spent countless hours entertaining her. Our relationship was definitely not a priority every other week.
I know that alot of kids have it alot worse, but I have decided I cannot be part of a family that treats children this way and not do anything about it. Let me back up.
I saw on the news a while back that you can get into trouble/go to jail for putting your kids in a school that they are not zoned to.
BM has the kids down as living "at grandparents" address. I should call the school and let them know.
i saw on the news that a mom put down the fathers address so that the kid could go to a better school, instead of hers, and she went to jail!
sooo STUPID DH thought it would be ok since I WAS NOT HOME, to have bm drop off kids since he had just gotten off of work and was too tired to go get them! I chewed his butt so good for that crap I was pissed! He let it slip when I called him to see what he was doing he was still half sleep and said "trying to keep the noise down kids are down stairs" and I said oh you went and got them already, then he said no "she" dropped them off !!!!!!!
For some strange reason, bm has it in her head that we have her xbox. We don't. We don't even like stuff like that. She called yesterday under the guise of talking to SD, which lasted for maybe three minutes. BM then spent at least 10mins on the phone with SO trying to convince him to give said xbox back to her because she, and get this, "wakes up every morning crying because she misses her xbox." Not her daughter. Her xbox. WTF.
I had plenty of chances to go with anyone, but I knew what I wanted and I was going to find it if it was the last thing I could do as I’m sure he did too. I grew up much differently than most; I’ve seen and done things that no child should have to endure. It all has done no harm, only made me the remarkable woman I am today. My mother had committed suicide about 6 months prior to my affair exactly 1 week past my 18 Birthday, and all she ever wanted was for me to leave the bastard of what he called himself a “man” and give my daughter what she deserved a real family and father figure.
I work really hard...
Just need to put that out there before my LONG rant...
I'm a first time mom to a great almost 2 year old boy...Been married for almost 3 1/2 years...Just celebrated 1 year in my new home...Lots of new stuff over the past few years...
I juggle a lot...Just like every mother on the planet...I don't think I'm doing anything special...
I'm a planner. I HATE...and will damn near FIGHT you if somebody throws some last minute unplanned, could have been avoided crap on me. I do it and adjust, but you will hear "it" from me...
Don't know if this has been posted before, but I found an excellent article here:
http://www.siskiyous.edu/class/engl12/stepmom.htm
I have printed it off, will be highlighting and leaving around the house by accident lol-I think i'll have more luck w/that then leaving a big book around.
The article hits the nail on the head about step-parenting, particularly stepmoms.
So SD (12) got head lice again. We have treated it three times now and she is still coming home from BM's with it. So we find out this weekend that even though BM knows perfectly well that SD has lice she is still allowing her to spend the night with people/have people spend the night with her.
I just can't seem to handle the two of them anymore. SS will be 7 soon and he really is the best manipulative kid I've been around. He lies constantly to me and DH then goes with BM and gets spoiled rotten. We don't tell BM about incidences because we want the least amount of contact with her as possible.
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