DH and I are thinking about moving out of state. I am working and DH is a stay at home dad (family choice. totally fine). What steps can I take about getting a new job and a new home before having to go to court to remove SS (we have primary custody) from the state? Do I apply for the job and get set up the way? Do we go to court first and get the permission then apply for jobs and find a home?
What examples are there for a judge to take legal custody away from a parent?
I have hit rock bottom with the BM situation. If it isn't one thing, it certainly is another. BM has become so crazy that it's coming to the point of non stop nonsense. The latest kick is that she can't have personal phone numbers to the people that SS has play dates and sleep overs with. These parents don't want her to have their numbers. She causes way too much drama and inappropriate situations like pulling her "i'm an attorney and have a court order" crap to anyone involved with SS. SS just recently had an outbreak of MRSA. Gross. BM has had many infections over the years.
How often are any of you being taken back to court for potential contempt? If it's something little and petty, do you worry? If they other parent doesn't follow certain outlines too how bad of a fight is it?
How many of your give personal phone numbers for play dates to the other parent? When do you draw the line about how much the other parent has in your life?
Hopefully next year DH and I can have SS9 be enrolled in the Charter School. It is 5 day school weeks and learns a lot more than the local elementary school in town. BM usually has Fridays for visitation but because she works each and every Friday SS goes to see her, hopefully it would be a no brainer to get the day back. SS can't play most sports due to his heart condition and BM won't be involved or exchange time for SS to play baseball which he is allowed to play.
Its really hard for me to give up control sometimes. DH will only occasionally now give in to BM to avoid a fight. It drives me insane. It snows hard sometime where we live and it's to dangerous to cross the summit. We got home late and BM had already started the drive up.
what's a good age to take kids to Disneyland? I have a 9 yr old and a 2 yr old
BM threatens to call the police on DH because of missed phone time. SS was busy playing and we went out so when she called we told her he was busy and that she could call the next day (which isn't her normal time.) She went off the handle and threatened us with police. She made up this big ordeal over email saying we aren't telling her where he is or what he is doing and concealing him from her.
It's been awhile. Nothing has really changed. We went back to court because poor BM spent so much time driving and she needs DH to basically help her be an active mother. BM lied during court like she always does. We are waiting for the judge to decide a location and time for exchanges. We exchange at a gas station while she exchanges on the side of a highway no matter what condition. The judge did say that both parties need to work together better and stop being petty.
How do you deal with the bad excuse of a parent being the Disneyland parent? Also broken promises to the kid?