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If you've followed along with my story, you know SS12 comes for a total of 4 weeks in the summer. It is supposed to be in 2 two week blocks but per our stupid CO, BM can break that down into whatever increments is needed for "sport related conflicts" as long as we maintain 4 weeks/30 days total. Oh and the CO gives BM up to one week before SS is scheduled to arrive (day after the last day of school) to make any changes.
My stepson is 9 and VERY immature. We took him to te park last night and he held his mom's hand the whole way there and back. I find it looks off. He is up to her shoulder in height and it looks wromg to me. He is nearing the end of Grade 4. I teach at the middle school he will be going to in Grade 7 and I feel like the other kids wont accept him at alll. He is at a traditional school nowwhere the kids are nicer but he never sees kids outsids of school. I feel like my wife only carrs about making him feel loved and not about veing an independemt person witb a life outsde of his immed
For my own sanity and stress level, I'm working on not caring regarding SS13. In other words, if it's an issue that doesn't directly impact me, my property or the dogs, I'm going to stop caring or worrying about it. Just let go and let the parents deal with it (or not -- as will probably be the case). I feel like I've been caring too much and getting too anxious about certain things, but that just leads to frustration as there's not much I can do.
Todays active shooter event in Las Vegas was in my DW's office bldg. It occurred on a different floor than where she works.
The event killed a lawyer, and his new wife who he was representing during a deposition. Apparently the shooter who also killed himself, was also a lawyer, and the XFIL of the murdered wife. The XFIL was representing his son. Reports are that the XH/son of the shooter was in the deposition. The dead couple recently had a baby. The victim lawyer is a father of 4.
So instead of just the weekend YSD18 is here "for a few extra days" DH tells me yesterday, Sunday, afternoon. I'm sure he knew about it before but didn't want to tell me. Ok, whatever - just so you know DH, I'm cooking meat for dinner tonight I had planned and we are out of veg so you'll need to go get more today.
After a pleasant week off, SS13 came back over yesterday. As usual, the unbearable stench hit us when he got in the car. (He always comes over from BM's absolutely reeking of pet-related smells. It's not BO.) DH had to open the sunroof and roll down windows until we got home. When we arrived home, DH told him to go up and shower and to bring his clothes down to the washer. He got the bag of sports uniforms and dumped them straight in there as well.
I go on prepping lunch. Eventually, SS comes down -- wearing the same tracksuit he was wearing before.
We are trialling out a co-parenting app as an official line of communication. It means that we can have shared calendars, messages can't be deleted and we can keep a record of call logs to the kids. The co-parenting app has an option of including third parties such as grandparents and step parents so that everyone is on the same page with matters to do with the kids.
Is it a good idea to be part of this co-parenting app or is it best for it to be kept just between the bio parents?
In reality I'm noticed as a step mom but I shouldn't be a step mom and I will never ever act like a mom for my boyfriend's kid. He's a 12 year old boy but yet acts like a selfless teenager and sometimes acts like he's 5 years old. He doesn't know how to do anything like literally anything. He doesn't know how to hang up clothes, tie his shoes, take his own shower, change for himself, open a simple can of coke... You basically get the point. All he does know is to play Xbox all day, stay up all night, sleep all day, scream, complaim, and eat.
Two so far. A Vigilante and Big Driver. Both about abused women who go ape shit on their abusers. A Vigilante is particularly disturbing. It is about an abused woman who starts resolving issues for other abused women. I cheered her on but the circumstances of her situation and the women and kids she helps
What stands out are the similarities between the movies and so many SP marriages where repeat emotional, financial, residential, etc, etc, etc abuse happens and it is tolerated for far too long.
I am feeling pretty good right now.
Just changed the password to my netflix account. In checking the devices logged in, I noticed powersulk has been logging in every day, even after I had alerted her to me shaving down to only 2 devices and can she please log out. I have not mentioned this to her, or husband. Shes with Toxic Troll this week. If she mentions it, while with us, Ill just let her know its ONLY 2 devices and those 2 are our TVs which she is welcome to use.
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