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summer trips

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My wife and I are both teachers and we always take her kids on a trip which I dread, mostly due to my SS9.  I have been in the picture for 5 years and they are with us half time.  Whilehe can be kind and a good kid, he can also be very pushy and obnoxious at times.  My biggest frustration is that my wife never calls him on or even recognizes this behaviot.  At the pool, he was acting like a 5 year old.  He is 9 and can swim but wouldnt go anywhere without mom or his sister.  He starts to bug endlessly until they go which is very irritating.  He starting whining in a baby voice which I shut

hand holding 9 yo boy

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My stepson is 9 and VERY immature.  We took him to te park last night and he held his mom's hand the whole way there and back.  I find it looks off.  He is up to her shoulder in height and it looks wromg to me.  He is nearing the end of Grade 4.  I teach at the middle school he will be going to in Grade 7 and I feel like the other kids wont accept him at alll.  He is at a traditional school nowwhere the kids are nicer but he never sees kids outsids of school.  I feel like my wife only carrs about making him feel loved and not about veing an independemt person witb a life outsde of his immed

Back in our bed for 9 yo

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My SS is 9 but lives like a 5 yo.  Sits on the couch all day every day.  Wont go or do anything without mommy.  Luckily, he is only here half the time so I compromise erand let it go.  My non negotiable has been our coming into our bed at night.  I hate it.  We stopped it at the start of Grade 3.  He woukd sleep with mummy every night if he could.  A week amd a half ago he had a tooth pulled and for some reason he came in at 2am.  I told my wife that it was ok as a one off but it isnt becoming a regular thing.  The next night he didnt come in but he did the night after that.  My wife took h

Very Frustrated

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Wife and I are both teachers.  I used to love snow days before we were together.  Now that I live with her 2 kids I dread them.  She only has her kids half time so she indulges them but snow days are super indulgent.  She works all day for them and they barely pick up after themselves.  Yesterday was a snow day.  It was our evening but his day.  We usually get stuck with them since he is in the private sector.  He didnt go in and still didnt take them until 430.  Another snow day today and they are here again at 9am until 430.

feeling resentful

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My SD 13 and SS almost 9 are here half the time and I find the dynamics so frustrating.  They never leave the house without their mom.  I dont usually go with them so I get some time to myself.  I often feel like I am single half the time.  SD is in her room on her phone but SS is on the coach all day every day unless his mom takes him out, usually to the store.  They are not that badly behaved but so lazy and ask for things wayyyyy too much and it really bothers me.  Bed time still takes an hour for SS and 30 for SD, the same as it did 4 years ago.   My wife is materialistic and I am not a

frustrating home dynamic

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I have been living with skids almost 4 years now.  They were 4 and 9 and now 8 and 13.  I have always found the 8 year old hard to live with.  While he is a nice kid, he always needs to be the center of everything.  He basically owns the living room and watches youtube and is on his phone all day.  I have tried to discourage this but now I welcome it because he needs constant attention when not on screens.  He say "mum," every 2 minutes and during conversation and it drives me nuts.  He is constantly asking for things, so tired of hearing "I want" and "can I have." He never plays in his roo

so entitled

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So we have a snow day today, my wife and I are both teachers   The kids come in (very loudly) after being dropped off by their dad.  SS8 comes in and tells us the plan for the day.  He is going to watch tv for a while and then we are taking them sledding.  SD12 comes in and informs us she won't be shovelling because she just did at her dads.  I guess this is fair but no one asked her to shovel in the first place.  SS8 also informs us that he won't be shovelling even though he did nothing at his dads.  He then wants bacon and pancakes for breakfast.  I just feel like they are so entitled and