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Some of you may remember, recently while me & BF were watching 'Ghost', the BM called in need of attention and he was on the phone with her for an hour! I was so pissed. I slept on the couch. (I've never done that before )
The next morning, I was still upset and crying over it. I spilled my feelings out - but good.
My SD has been seeing a therapist, of the BM choosing, for over a year now (of which, we, BTW, did not find out about until six months after the fact). We have met with the therapist once and have tried to contact him via e-mail, without any luck. The BM is very non-communicative concerning the SD visits, so my BF called yesterday to request a copy of SD records so we could see what was going on with the therapy sessions.
Long story short:
My son's X-stepmother a non-participant in son's life (he
now 37) gave him a new car for Christmas. I now wait for the other shoe to drop so to speak. Son is upset that I am upset and not speaking to me. This has never happened before. AND at the same time it is announced that they after many years of trying are having a baby. And the step mummy? You guessed it. I am not a confrontational person and do not
know how to handle this, she told him not to tell me that she gave him the car.(Their little secret !) NOT.
In the week I have been on this site, I get more & more amazed.
The book would be for the bad BM's.
I'll take the chapter on
"Stop using your own kids" - This isn't a chess game!
Here's some other chapter ideas.
"It's not your wallet anymore" - Keep your sticky fingers off!
"Be happy I care about your kids" - Stop treating me like I introduced them to crack!
"Yeah, He's happy now" - Get over it!
"Accepting the food chain" - You got a new place!
Well I am still not happy with this situation. Im getting a full time job so that they can move out...I dont think bf thinks I am serious about his moving, but I am...I feel no respect with the older kid...that lives here...Ask him to take his shoes off when he comes into the living room, you think thats just too hard of a request because he never does..This carpet is off white and stains like mad...I just feel he has no respect for me and I am tired of knowing what is going on with his 4 kids...what a job dealing with bf's baggage all the time.
Hi. This is my first time here or anywhere looking for help online. Ive seen 2 therapists but have gotten no where. Ive been with my fiance for 3 years (lived with him for 2) and he has 2 kids 5 & 7 who for the most part are good. The first year of our relationship was right out of the divorce. i was left out constantly. to the point that even on christmas morning hed drive from my place to his exwifes and be there for when the kids woke up so they wouldnt be "traumatized". he'd help his exwife fix things around the house etc.
When we make it a point to respect the children's mother no-matter what. (I do not care for her one bit and have said my fair share about her to my H, family and friends but never in front of, or to the kids) I do not even allow my H's parents to trash BM (which they love to do, and sometimes do in front of the kids) I say how inappropriate it is everytime. I am well aware she is their Mother and even though I do not agree with her on a lot of issues, I have a healthy boundary in understanding this concept. With that said...
We have not seen my boyfriend's daughter since the last huge explosion last year. If you remember, her mother tries to run her house and our house. I used to welcome her into our home for her daughter's sake, but that backfired. You see, my boyfriend has been divorced from his ex-wife since their daughter was 4 (she is now 16). The mother and daughter have manipulated my boyfriend for a long time - he used to mow her lawn, shovel the driveway, the ex-wife still attends all family functions on my boyfriend's side of the family "because she has been in the family for a long time"...
We got ANOTHER court summons the other day. BM has accused BF of phone harrassment on a day that he had SS. I'm actually excited about it because it's a chance for us to show the court system how ridiculous BM is and how far out of her way she goes to try to get us into trouble. On the day in question, she sent me 3 emails that morning before BF left demanding that he call her NOW in regards to SS. I let him know, and he called her before he left to go get him. When he got her on the phone, he asked what she wanted.
I asked hubby to call his daughter on our behalf to see how a show went that she was in...When he called he got the machine. Instead of telling her "it's dad, and we are calling to see how all went", he kept it in the "I." "I" just wanted to see how you did, call "me" back." Then when she called back...they chat and he said...Okay hon, I'm proud of you. I know it's "his" daughter, but I am so tired of feeling like a nonentity and outsider..I was the one who wanted him to call...Shouldn't he have said "Hi hon,"we" just wanted to say hi.."we're" so proud of you?