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SS did get to come yesterday to spend the weekend with us and amazingly we haven't had any disasters yet. BM has yet to email me except to say that she is available on her cell if we or SS need her. If she has called SS yet I haven't known of it. She actually sent a toothbrush and toothpaste with him this time (he didn't even have one at all last time he came). The toothpaste was a little sample that it looks like BM dug out of a drawer somewhere because it was caked in gooey pastey crap and they made me clean it off before they would use it.
Well, I'm new here. I debated for quite a while on whether to write anything or not, but I guess I'll never get help if I don't, eh? Well, I guess I'll start at the beginning. I've been married to my husband for nearly 3 years. He has a daughter from a previous relationship who is 8, and we have 2 younger children together. He is in the military, so we tend to move quite a bit. My SD (until recently) spent long breaks from school and summer with us. My husband just came back from a deployment, and he decided he would like for her to live with us. That's all well and good.
In need of some outside advice on this....... Is it ok for 13 year old ss. to have a "my space" account?? Do not feel he is old enough, he has himself listed as 25!! Also, I hear he can get porn on this site, I know he already sees enough from other sorces, but w/ a site this open, I cant help but worry???? Meshel
We have SD this weekend and she will finally be returning to school on Monday, so BM called my fiance just now, wanting to make sure she would have a restful weekend with us. Fine, good attempt at coparenting. (We were already going to do this and don't need her telling us, but any communication that doesn't involve her hurling accusations at us is a huge step.) Then she tried to tell us what movies to watch, what time to go to bed and get up, and not to take SD horseback riding as if any of that is her business. I'm so sick of her trying to control our household!
Okay so I know this isn't really about stepparenting but things have been going pretty smooth in that arena lately (thank god)! But I do need advice on another matter.......
I was wanting an honest opinion about naming my daughter after me (well in a way). My name is Nicole. And I had the idea to name her Nicolette. Does this sound cheesy? And my husbands name is Shawn. So I thought it would be cool to name her Nicolette Shawna. But I do have some reservations about it. I like the idea but need some thoughts. Does it sound weird?
How did your skids react when you and DH got engaged? Did he tell them before he proposed? Did he do it in front of them? Did you have any issues with BM when she found out you were planning to get married? I've been waiting for a long time for DH to officially ask me to marry him... We have discussed it and we know it is something we both want.. but it seems like the timing is just off between us.. We decided to buy a house first and then plan the wedding. However, I certianly thought we would have gotten engaged a long time ago..
Just curious. Does anyone know? Is it supposed to include activities that the parent recieving child support signs the children up?
Just having a moment of financial anxiety of worrying about paying for half the ortho, the huge increase in our health insurance premium ( we went with better plan) and new baby on the way and all the extras that seem to pop up.
I think my brain blew a fuse....
Anyone who has read my recent blogs know about the situation with SS's IEP meeting, and how BM was saying how she DIDN'T want me there, I wasn't "allowed".
A short while ago, she sent my H a few emails, the one dealing with the meeting said this (among other things)~
"Are you so childish that you and your wife can't sit with me for an hour in a meeting?"
"Having separate meetings is a waste of the school's time and energy"
"I may not like the fact that you're bringing your wife, but I will at least be polite to her"
My 6 year old ss is in the first grade. He is a very smart & sweet boy but has really had issues starting this summer with paying attention. There were also some incidents with yelling & hitting his older brother. ( once because he wanted to eat & no one else was hungry) We have brought this up to his mother & she & DH have sat down & spoken to him with a few of the incidents during this school year...but if the school wasn't bringing it up she would not notice it or do something about it.
I finally attended SD's family therapy appointment yesterday. Here's a recap:
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