I used to be a very active steptalker, but now it's been a year or so since I've posted so I'm sure most of you don't know my story. I'm feeling so hopeless tonight that I feel compelled to write.
We all joke about finally getting together and meeting face to face, but is there anyone local to Philly who would actually like to form a stepparents' support group? Well, here's our chance - I came across this today:
...and wondered if any StepTalkers might be interested? I would love meeting you!
I'm beginning to wonder why we ever decided to move to be closer to SD. BM's parental alienation is just too much for me to take anymore. I guess I used to be able to handle it better before when I thought that it wasn't actually working on SD. But now, I don't know, I'm so discouraged, disheartened, hopeless. I really don't think that we'll be able to continue having a meaningful relationship with SD. It's so sad and scary - she's turning into a mini-version of her mother which is my *worst* nightmare.
I just don't know how to deal anymore.
We've got an offer on our house and the buyer wants to settle in 3 weeks! After 8 long months, we're finally going to sell our place and move closer to SD! Hooray hooray hooray! Now let's get ready for WWIII when BM finds out...
For those of you who know my story, I bet you never thought you'd see this title on my blog, as SD and I have always had a very close and loving relationship. But Friday night I lost it and misdirected my anger and frustration onto her. It wasn't pretty. I hope I've been able to undo any damage. Let me back up a little and explain what happened.
Ok, so we're planning to move to be closer to SD, right? Well, you'd think we were putting SD in grave danger by BM's reaction to this. She is basically threatening to pick up and move SD far away if we move to a) her town or b) the neighboring town she lives right next to. Oh, like she can forbid us to move to a specific zip code or two? PLEASE! I am so fed up with this BS!
I miss you, my StepTalk friends! So much has happened these past few months and I have barely had time to come up for air. I've been dying to update you, but it seems that once I get a moment to myself, all I want to do is sleep! What can I say? I have a 6-week-old baby who keeps me up all night and a 2-year-old who keeps me busy all day! Not to mention I just started a new job, albeit part-time, because I lost my old one when I was 9 months pregnant!
And she's a little strawberry-banana! That is, she's jaundiced, but she's on the mend now. She had in-home photo therapy all last week and she's finally thriving, but it was a little scary for a while because she lost a whole pound and she was severely dehydrated while we were waiting for my milk to come in. She's gaining weight again and the doctors and nurses took excellent care of her, so all's well now.
The lawyer that my fiance met with a few weeks ago got back to him after consulting with her "superstars" in the custody field. Given that we can't afford a lawyer at a minimum cost of $10k, she recommended that we pursue custody on our own! She said we have a rock solid case and there are free legal services at the local universities that can help us wade through it all. She said that money (or lack thereof) does not have to stop us from saving SD. So there's hope! We're looking into what the universities offer and going from there.
We finally found a lawyer! There is some good, some bad and some terribly ugly, but the positive thing is that we found the woman for the job.