Long story as short as possible, SD refused to speak at the Family Based therapy appointment last night and was sullen and withdrawn and when she wasn't staring at the floor, she was sharing lots of looks with BM and then glaring at BF. After BF talked a little about how he wasn't happy that BM hadn't informed him of SD's anxiety attacks and resulting 2 days out of school the other week, one of the therapists asked if SD wanted to talk now. SD and BM had another spate of looks and the therapist asked if SD should maybe express her own thoughts and not look to her mom for hers.

Yes, BM has been avoiding therapy ever since last month when the Family Based Therapy team said that they wanted to start meeting with BM, BF and SD all together. She said that SD's schedule was just "really busy". The therapists just think BM's avoiding facing the music. They met at the FBT office instead of in the home. I guess they want it to be on neutral territory from now on? Here's a brief (ok, long!) synopsis from BF.

Ok, I just need to whine a little because I always get the shaft because of BM's decisions which affect MY family. My fiance and I are so sick of her not consulting him, making a decision and then sharing it with him at the last possible second, thus making us scramble to accomodate what she dictates.

Ok, here's a first. Tonight, BF went to see SD for their weekly Daddy/Daughter dinner and BM made what we suspect to be an attempt at coparenting. We think. She's never done anything like this before so we're suspicious. I guess it's a step in the right direction anyway - maybe family based therapy is working? I have found that every step forward like this is followed very quickly by several steps back, though. We'll see!