So much news, so little time!
I miss you, my StepTalk friends! So much has happened these past few months and I have barely had time to come up for air. I've been dying to update you, but it seems that once I get a moment to myself, all I want to do is sleep! What can I say? I have a 6-week-old baby who keeps me up all night and a 2-year-old who keeps me busy all day! Not to mention I just started a new job, albeit part-time, because I lost my old one when I was 9 months pregnant! (That's a whole other story right there that I won't even bother getting into, but just know that the whole ordeal has been extremely stressful!)
That said, however, I think that losing my job will prove to be a blessing in disguise. You see, this job was very far away from everything. We moved from our city to be closer to this job, which brought us far away from BF's job and far away from SD, both of which have proven to make our lives quite complicated, what with BF's 2-hour commute by bus and BM's constant attempts to screw us up by doing such lovely things as denying custody after I'd fought traffic for an hour and half to pick SD up after a grueling day/week at work, for example. (This just happened on SD's birthday - it was terrible, sad and depressing. You know, the usual.) So, even though we only moved here little more than a year ago, BF and I decided that it's silly for us to stay here when we're now *both* commuting downtown and we just hate being so far from SD, especially since her mother is so unstable. So we are going to find tenants for our place and end up renting some tiny overpriced apartment in SD's town, but at least we can get to our jobs easily and SD can WALK over to see us when BM pulls her usual craziness.
And yes, BM. She is just as horrific as ever, even after 9 months of Family Based Therapy. They're being discharged next week even though not a damn thing has changed. But, a 9 month program is a 9 month program so now that they've completed it, the therapists have to discharge them. They've ordered coparenting classes, as if that's going to do any good, but BF will faithfully attend, just to be attacked by BM with nonsense week after week. We figure that since suing for custody isn't on the horizon simply for the financial and emotional drain it would put on everyone, moving to SD's town to truly provide an accessible safe haven for her is the best thing we can do faced with this monster -er- mother. When BM caught wind of this impending move, she went BALLISTIC. Seriously, I have never seen a grown woman behave so like a toddler. Anyway, all the more reason for us to live closer so we can help SD get through all that BM puts her through.
I have so much more to say, but it's late and I'm e-x-h-a-u-s-t-e-d so it'll just have to wait! Love and hugs to you all. You're in my thoughts, even though I'm not coming on here too often. Take care!