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My BF has two children.I've never thought, i will have this horrible experience. Long story short. My BF ex-wife cheated on him to someone else, abandoned her children, she came back home&left home before they divorced. They divorced 5 yrs ago. 2yrs ago, i started my relationship with my BF. He has had a bad credit because his ex-wife didn't pay morgate, she got money from my BF and didn't pay until morgate called my BF to remind he was behind payment for 2 months. His ex-wife has still owed child support to my BF and never paid. He lost his job and house 2 yrs ago. I can't belive this happen with him. His ex-wife called him and told him to see her at dunkin donut, she needed to talk about the kids. My BF worried about her&the kids. Then, the next day, she blaimed to my BF about his new girlfriend(it's me) and tried to make her daughter&son closed to her new husband whom she had an affair with(behind of my BF back). The kids really wanted to stay with their mom because their mom would move to out of state. So, they did everything that their mom wanted. My BF's son wrote the letter to the court about his dad abused him. and his daughter just blamed at me that dad picked new girlfriend over than her. I have been crucified to get that blame from 11 yrs old girl and had seen my BF cried every night to miss his own children... I have known so far everything is from his ex-wife to change the story from her fault to be my BF fault that's why, she ran away from her own children before. My BF lost job&house that time. We didn't have anything to eat just peanut butter. We moved to live with his mom for a while. His daughter called her Nana and blamed at me everything until one day my BF's son wanted to move back to stay with him because he didn't get along with his stepfather and my BF's mom started to worried about her situation because my BF's son used to say "Fxxx You" to her when the cops came to knock at her house and we all called my BF's son to go to school, that time was the process of my BF ex-wife to move out of state. Then my BF's mom turned to make me to be excuse again to be unable to live there even if she used to ask us to live there because she was 78 yrs old and unhealthy. I love her, my BF worked far away from his mom house. Everytime during 3am or 4am, his mom called&yelled at him. I never seen him yelled at his mom back. I could see my BF love his mom so much then, my BF's son came back, My BF's mom tried to convinced me to no accept her grandson back. I felt bad for my BF and i was so much optimistic person. I said "Yes." My BF's mom kicked me out&made me to be excuse. Whoever read this, you know?? Why i knew exactly, she made me to be an excuse... Because she just passed away couple weeks ago...I was shock. I haven't talked to her for a year. I used to take care of her when she was sick and never hated to clean her bottom because i respected her like my mom in U.S. Last mother's day, i gave the flower to her and she thought, i went back to my country already because my BF had to lie to his own mom about me due to his daughter always never ended my story and his mom couldn't say anything because she loved her grandaughter very much and if she said, I 'm a good girl. My BF daughter never gonna called her again.... The truth came out after my BF's mom passed away, she left the easter card to me about she loved me, and told me how wonderful i was. They found out at my BF's mom house. It 's horrible for me that the way that my BF's mom passed away lonely. At my BF's mom funeral, someone came to me and told me my BF's mom loved me...My heart is broken and hurt so much because i wanted to see her a long time but i thought she didn't like me because my BF's daughter told us. The 2nd truth came out again when we met my BF daugther at my BF's mom funeral after we never seen her &talked to her for over a year. When we first met her, she huged her dad and huged me and said she missed me... My BF's ex-wife didn't say anything to me even if i have been taking care of her son and paid for everything... She came back to hurt my BF's feeling. First day of coming back had a cook out before my BF's mom funeral next day,she took the kids with her, the kids never seen their mom cousin a long time so they forgot their dad(my BF). They came with her. My BF's daughter canceled her dinner with her dad for that stupid cook-out...At funeral, my BF's son changed back again, didn't talk to me or said anything. He just waited to see his mom, he started to lie to my BF again and did something that couldn't do. He came to his mom's counsin house and had a party before my BF's mom funeral and after my BF's mom funeral on Sundays....I was so upset because at the funeral day at church, my BF's ex-wife cut in front of me to go to sit close to my BF and took her daughter to hug during mass at the church. My BF couldn't do anything that time because we wanted his mom to go to heaven and had peace and mind... At the cemetery,his ex-wife relative tried to pull the flower from my BF's mom funeral to give it to his ex-wife sister daugther, not only one rose, they all gave her a lot of roses and didn't give us to have a quite time to say bye to my BF's mom... Afterthat, my BF's son asked about what's wrong&showed he didn't agree with them...But you know what, my BF's son went with them before his Nana's funeral&after funeral to cook-out while his dad was crying....My BF told his son everything about the thing that my BF's son mom did to us...Then, he said he understood..Then, the next day, he puted his mom photo in our computer on screensaver.

I was so upset, everytimes when this kid needs me, i always did everything...paid so much money for him.. I don't want him hate his mom..I have mom too. I just want him care me and it seemed like they make me&my BF to stand in the position of my BF cheated on his mom and i am that girl...I told my BF, his son has a mental problem, he almost burned his house before, wrote the letter to court to say bad to his dad who never left them and spent all money that he had for his children, hugged the guy who had an affair with his mom behind of dad's back and against his dad,...

After my BF's mom funeral, he has changed and always changed when his mom is aroud...When my BF's son lived with his mom, he got all "F"..Right now, he lives with us his grad is better because we all care about his future...

Sometimes, i want to just walk away and then, my memory always popped up the time that my BF's mom cried to me to no leave her son...Am...I'm so tired&want my BF to agree with me and told his son to spend all summer with his mom&his cousins then school years, if he doesn't get A or B, no bother us to ask to go with their grammy or anyone in that his mom family...It s unhealthy...It's poison to the kids and my relationship with my BF....