That's it, I want to move to England
I used to be a very active steptalker, but now it's been a year or so since I've posted so I'm sure most of you don't know my story. I'm feeling so hopeless tonight that I feel compelled to write.
SD13 has sadly all but written us out of her life after so many years of vicious parental alienation from BM. We moved to her township a year ago March to be near her and she abruptly stopped coming in August. Ironic, huh? SD13 wrote an email to her dad this past February that said she "wasn't comfortable with us yet" (after years and years of being perfectly comfortable, loving and accepting of her family, mind you, AND after being over the moon happy about us moving here in the beginning) and essentially said she "wasn't telling us to move, but..." So there you have it, she won't see nor speak to us, and she's angry that Dad's abandoned her (this according to her psychiatrist).
Last August, we all spent the time of our lives for 11 days while SD15 visited us from England for the first time ever. The 6 of us were peas in a pod: Dad united with his 4 girls at last. (We have two daughters together, 3.5 and 1.5 - oh and by the way, a third due in August!) Anyway, SD13 stayed with us the entire time, the longest she'd ever stayed with us - prior to that, the 48-hour weekend was her max. Apparently, this was too much for BM because this was the last time SD13 spent the night in our house.
SD15 is here now visiting for the second time ever, and we had held out the hope that SD13 would finally come around. She idolizes her big sister! Well, we tried for weeks to make a plan with SD13 ahead of time - no answer - and called 5 times a day on all phones for the first 4 or 5 days of SD15 being here, trying to get together - no answer. Finally, BM calls *after* SD13's spring break is over on the 5th day and says "oh, we'll have to get the girls together" as though they hadn't been ignoring about 25 phone messages. So SD13 finally graces us with her presence at 9pm one night and stays for a couple of hours. Wow. Then she says she'll come spend the night Friday (tonight) and we're all so happy and excited, waiting for the big day to arrive where we can all be together again and WHAM! BM manages to screw it all up!
Instead of coming over and reuniting the 4 sisters again like we've been looking forward to for ages, BM comes and TAKES SD15 and SD13 away to the mall and won't let us come!!!! She orchestrated a whole thing involving friends of theirs so there was absolutely nothing we could do without looking like total villains. We asked if we could meet them there and spend time together and SD13 said that she wanted it to be "big girl" time so the answer was no. Ok, "big girl" time is fine, and frankly quite normal for teens to want - but can we get some family time too??? Can we have a say in anything?! If BM wants to control SD15's time here, she can buy the bloody plane ticket then! My favorite part is she introduces SD15 as her SD and they've never had a relationship or been in the same room together for more than 5 minutes till tonight and um, she's NOT WITH HER DAD, hello? I think the SM role is mine!
So, BM promised SD15 back at 9pm and now it's gone 11:30pm and they're still not back. It's her last night here and she's spending it with BM?! I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.
I just love my girls. I just want us all to be together again! I'm sad that our happy family is a distant memory. I don't understand why SD13 went from loving us to pieces to avoiding us like the plague - well, I do understand - she's been poisoned by a very skillful witch. But it doesn't help to know that.
SD15 says we should move to England, that she would hang with us every day! Bless her heart. I'm actually considering it.