First Wife Returns
We have not seen my boyfriend's daughter since the last huge explosion last year. If you remember, her mother tries to run her house and our house. I used to welcome her into our home for her daughter's sake, but that backfired. You see, my boyfriend has been divorced from his ex-wife since their daughter was 4 (she is now 16). The mother and daughter have manipulated my boyfriend for a long time - he used to mow her lawn, shovel the driveway, the ex-wife still attends all family functions on my boyfriend's side of the family "because she has been in the family for a long time"... The daughter refuses to live by the rules of our house and mommy runs to the rescue every time her father tries to discipline or set rules. The daughter doesn't mind if I am in their lives, but not in my boyfriend's family functions because mom feels uncomfortable. You get the picture - I'm the outsider.
My boyfriend made the mistake of calling the ex-wife to ask when she was going to be able to take the furniture that was my boyfriend's mother and he is passing them down to his daughter. The ex-wife proceeded to ask his assistance in finding a plumber, finding a person to remodel her bathroom and the proceeded to complain about how she got the daughter and he "got the better end of the deal - me". First of all, he misses not seeing his daughter. Second of all, we aren't allowed to have a relationship unless mommy is running the show... She then showed up at our house 15 minutes after she hung up the phone with a tape measure and measured the furniture, told him she would probably be able to accept the furniture sometime next week, but she would let him know and she only wanted to take certain pieces.
The following day, she called him again to tell him about how she caught the daughter lying about a boy she was not allowed to see anymore...
I got upset with my boyfriend for opening Pandora's box. I am somewhat jealous, but she really shouldn't be calling upon him for household problems - I understand the issues with his daughter, but after all, she created the problem, she should solve it...
She also suggested that my boyfriend have breakfast or do something alone with his daughter because she is so against our relationship. Excuse me, we have been together for almost 4 years, she is not 4 years old, my daughter has to accept that we are together (she is 17 and I left my x-husband 5 years ago and it was extremely hard on my daughter), why shouldn't her daughter be made to understand she is not going to dictate her father's life.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.