New and needing to vent..
2 years Ive been in a relationship with a man who has the * ex wife* and two sons, ages 8 and 15. Its just been ridiculous. The ex, has issues. she had issues when they were married which apparently made her feel the need to cheat and is with one of the guys that she carried on with in the 13 yr joke of a marriage they had..starting off with the pregnancy game to GET married.
What makes me angry is the court system.. how a low class cheater can enable herself into the puppet master role, win a house she barely financially helped with, have her credit debt be paid off , and have total control in how the ridiculous parenting schedule plays out..oops and i forgot .. free cash.. i mean * child support * and the court system doesnt give a rats ass about being fair and just.
She in turn, sold the house and hit the jackpot in doing so..decides she needs an new Escalade, massages, resort weekends because she is soo busy and stressed.. doing nothing, and recently went to Mexico for 5 days with a *gf* who is a known cheater as well. She has been living with one of the guys she was screwing around with during her marriage, altho she denies it but theres lots of proof.. and this fool was married too!He has two children also,who we hear have terrible manners and are very disrespectful. Go figure..
Something i read kind of covered A LOT if what is involved when it comes to this so called mother.. read below.. this was something i found on the internet - i didnt write it but it hit on many , not all but damn near all issues that im dealing with.. how about you?
Whatever the decisions were to end the marriage there seems to a number of first wives who have unresolved issues, we have discovered a familiar pattern into which a bitter ex-wife's behaviour falls: BEP ~ Bitter Ex-wife Pattern.
Most of our members have experienced some or all of these problems:
Ex-wife seeks to control ex-husband's time with their children.
Ex-wife dictates who should/shouldn't be around the children, ex- wife may seek to have 2nd wife, girlfriend, grandparents excluded.
Ex-wife to make child contact as difficult as possible - offer the children up for contact when she knows the ex-husband is working then accuse him of being an uncaring father when he can't see them at short notice.
Ex-wife insists she will not do any driving on contact days.
Ex-wife using the children to send messages to ex-husband and his family.
Ex-wife bad mouth ex-husband/wife/girlfriend/family and make children repeat it.
Ex-wife makes young children aware of court action, CSA etc.,
Ex-wife ridiculing ex-husband in front of the children and encouraging them to do the same.
Ex-wife tells the children they don't have to listen to their father.
Ex-wife insists on calling the children on their mobile phone while they are supposed to be relaxing and enjoying their time with their father yet blocks any calls ex-husband may make to the children.
Ex-wife refuses to give children privacy when their father calls to speak to them; she will listen to the call and coach the child in what to say.
Ex-wife insisting the children call there father by his first name and to call her new boyfriend 'Dad'.
Ex-wife enrols anyone who will listen to her into her hate ex-husband campaign.
Ex-wife gives no priority to ex-husband's time with the children and will organise an activity without discussing with their father.
Ex-wife to make verbal agreements so arrangements are made in advance and then claim it’s not in the court order so it won't happen.
Ex-wife refuses to abide by the court order and considers herself above it all, doesn’t matter how it affects the children.
Ex-wife refuses to 'allow' ex-husband to have any part in the children's education.
Ex-wife blocks ex-husband's attempts to have contact with schools, doctors and dentist.
Ex-wife lies to education authorities telling them her ex-husband is a bad person and that he should be excluded at all costs.
Ex-wife claims everything is the ex-husbands fault and she was totally blameless throughout the marriage.
Ex-wife had affairs during the marriage yet acts like a woman scorned when ex-husband gets on with his life without her.
Ex-wife lies about situations in the marriage and dates.
Ex-wife spying on ex-husband's new girlfriend/wife, hang around his home, and make nuisance phone calls.
Ex-wife obsessed with ex-husband's new life, wife and/or girlfriend.
Ex-wife engages the services of a Private Detective to spy on ex-husband and his new partner.
Ex-wife makes false claims of abuse of the children by ex-husbands new partner.
Ex-wife will claim at every opportunity her ex-husbands partner/wife is unfit to be around 'her' children.
Ex-wife makes false accusations about ex-husband harassing her.
Ex-wife makes false accusations of ex-husband beating her although she can't back this up with any evidence and her friends have never heard her mention this.
Ex-wife writes long waffling letters using solicitor’s terminology because she believes she has legal training due to the fact she spends so much time in their company.
Ex-wife claims the ex-husband is bad father because he doesn't pay enough money.
Ex-wife belittles presents given to the children by their father/his wife/his girlfriend/his family.
Ex-wife destroys presents given to the children by their father.
Ex-wife thinks she is entitled to most of the ex-husbands money.
Ex-wife enrols the help of her latest boyfriend to threaten and intimidate ex-husband.
Ex-wife has 'playing the victim' down to a fine art.
Ex-wife destroys all ex-husbands personal belongings she can get her hands on.
Ex-wife destroys family photos in front of children.
Ex-wife never questioned ex-husband's ability to be a good father and to care for the children by himself until they were divorced when he became totally unreliable and couldn't be trusted with the children unless she gives him a complete list of dos and don'ts.
Ex-wife refuses to acknowledge she has a problem and seek professional treatment for her problems such as paranoia, poor self image, anger...
Ex-wife claims she is always reasonable and all the problems are caused by her ex-husband!