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So here I sit with a bad case of Scarlet Fever (strep with a horrible itchy rash all over). I am a bright red nightmare. Dh has strep too, though not as bad as me. Thank you darling SS for this gift. Thankfully the baby is fine (though she is teething and crabby). We got the release of info from the GAL today for DH to sign. GAL is requesting skids medical and school records as well as permission to speak to skids. This is, I'm sure, to rule out any abuse issues.
and bc Valentine's day and recalling my "story" w DH (thanks, endora!) has my sentimental and all touchy-feely, i thought now would be a good time to announce....
IM PREGNANT!!!!!!!
yep! just 7 wks but i definitely am!
it hasnt been as easy few wks...i am sick all the time and exhausted, but hopefully that will only last another few weeks and then i can begin enjoying my prgenancy!
I wondered how we got where we are.
1. How did you meet your SO/BF/DH?
2. What made you decide to take on the skids with him/her?
I met DH through friends and we communicated on-line (as he lived across the city) for a few months before dating, we have been together 4 years married for 10 months.
SS, then 12 when we met was in a week on week off situation-DH and I never thought that would change for some reason. DUH!
My current state for those who have read my blogs. I got a couple messages wondering how I was doing or if I would be doing an update. I started to a few times but never got through them. Thanks to those who expressed interest and concern.
Another likely long and rambling stream of consciousness to follow.
We have at least discussed guilt parenting in therapy. I wanted to go to a couples session each week rather than every other week, but my wife and I are both seeing a counselor individually. Over $200/mo in co-pays and I cant handle more right now.
Since last summer I have disengaged from SS16 and DH because our parenting styles are polar opposites.
My question is how many of you have sat down in a quiet moment (without skids around)-and actually shared, without arguing, with your SO's how and why you are disengaging?
I did and was surprised by DH's reaction-and now he asks my opinion (not in front of SS16 of course)and direction he should take-one small step I guess.
I just can't keep doing this, putting on a happy face, justifiying the peace I have gotton back in my life, and putting myself and my son first for once, after all I have had to go through the past 4 years. What good is it all really.....when one picture of my skids makes me cry. Or worse yet, watching my DH last night,tack a new pic. of them up on our bedroom wall before getting into bed with me, and crying quietly in the dark. Neither one of us could see eachothers tears, but they were there. I know we can't do this anymore.
I was talking to a lawyer about a prenup OMG they are so expensive. has anyone done a prenup using a software program? any words of advice?
this is my second marriage and I have quite a few assets and FH has quite a few DEBTS.
so I want to protect myself and my retirement obviously...since we all know that second marriages have a 40% survival rate.
thanks!
DH and BM are currently in a custody battle that BM started. (just like all other crazy BM's is all about the money and not the kids) They are about a week from their depositions. DH attorney has several big lies to catch her in so it should be fun...to bad I am not able to watch her squirm.
BM was in contempt of the decree and when she moved back to our area last Aug I knew something was up. This was on the heels of taking the boys to every imaginative doctor appointment that she could make. Yes, DH got served in Oct for change in custody.
Thru the years my DH and I have been having the same discussion/agruement about SS.. Honesty or Insult
I've been thinking alot about my ss14, and really trying to bring us into a more positive relationship, like we had before he got older and he believes evertthing his mother says
How do you tell him that it's time to put on the big boy pants and act like a grown up?? :? H is still planning on what he will do with his share of the refund. He has these unreasonable plans to build himself and sd super computers. I could understand the need for a more powerful system if that where how he made his living but all he does is play games on it. That's all sd does too. Besides MIL bought H a new computer for Christmas last year and there is nothing wrong with it. I've been spending mine on redoing the bathroom, FIL and I worked all weekend on it and it looks great.
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