How do you tell him
How do you tell him that it's time to put on the big boy pants and act like a grown up?? :? H is still planning on what he will do with his share of the refund. He has these unreasonable plans to build himself and sd super computers. I could understand the need for a more powerful system if that where how he made his living but all he does is play games on it. That's all sd does too. Besides MIL bought H a new computer for Christmas last year and there is nothing wrong with it. I've been spending mine on redoing the bathroom, FIL and I worked all weekend on it and it looks great. All it cost me was the material and a steak dinner. H knows I still have most of it left and he's trying to convince me to buy most of his computer parts for him. Why can't he see we need to use most of it on remodeling and saving what's left? :? Is it too much to ask a man to act like a man? What are your honest opinions??
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Honestly.. I dont let DH
Honestly.. I dont let DH make those decisions anymore, or it would all be spent on the skids, for sh*t they dont need. I TELL him how its being spent.. and that is where the discussion ends. Do you have a mutual credit card? Tell him a portion "his" portion will be going to that, since "your" portion went to redoing that bathroom.. both of those expenditures benefit the FAMILY and not one individual or another.
I would point out that his current computer runs games just fine.. no need for an upgrade.. esp because that upgrade will be considered obsolete about 3 mths after its installed or received. Tell him the money is going to something that will retain its value longer than a year!!!
Good luck.. and be firm. too bad for him.
I usually seek compromise
explain to FH that there are other pressing things that financially need to be addressed that are important to the family, so maybe he can get a new holster for the gun he has instead of a new gun. (that's his thing)
But ferretmom, I can't really address how to handle your situation. My FH totally capitulates to me in terms of stuff like this. He's the big, 6 ft tall tattooed pierced fierce guy, but I'm the one wheeling and dealing when we make purchases, and financial decisions. He's my back up, in case anyone dares disrespect me while I'm tearing them a new one telling them what they're going to have to do to close the sale
It doesn't sound like your voice is heard on many issues in your family, so I don't know that this tactic will work for you
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