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So BM gets back from her week vaca, she has her kids for a day and a half and needs DH to take them a night earlier than our schedule AND keep them a night beyond Sundays usual drop off. So the tally is In 25 days: DH 20days/BM 5 days. I am not complaining about the extra time but we have 50/50 and are in court trying to get more. BM doesn't care how her needing extra help with the kids makes her look in court bc deep down-she really wants to only be "ACTING Head Bitch in charge".
I am loosing sense of who I am in this stepmathering thing. My SS is almost 16 (in two days), I am married to his father for almost 2 years.
All these years before I met my husband I used to have solid sense of who I was, I liked myself and respected myself, I was confident and sexy.
I have a 5 yr old stepson who I have a very close relationship with. My husband & I have joint custody so he is with us a lot. I attend any & all activities involving him. Well tomorrow is his 1st day of Kindergarten & he asked me if I was going to be there. My husband is taking off a few hours & I'm sure his mother will be there as well. Is it not my place to be there? Please let me know what you guys think. thanks
Thank Goodness you guys are here! ( I have raised two sons as a single mom through the teen years (my Ex -a cop, was "scared of the boys" and ran screaming with his tail between his legs during the teen years)- Charlie One (26 years old) and Charlie two (24 years old) (think of the sitcom Two and a Half Men) both Charlies are now contributing members of society and take care of themselves - My now Dh says I have two Charlie's-but I am unable to give ANY advice re Zippy 16 3/4th's:
My week with Zippy-
K so last night my DH and I went to look at some auto parts that we needed about an hour from home, after he got a call from SD asking if they could come 2 hours later cuz they were at the mall school shopping. DH and I had no problem with it. He is great about checking with me if plans change, not that I usually care.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can & the WISDOM to know the difference.
I pondered this little prayer last night & what it means to me & how i would apply it to my life. I accept that I will never be able to change my SD or the way my DH relates to her.
I mentioned this to hubby and we are torn as to whether or not this would be the best route for the girls.
On the one hand we all know BM is a drug addict, she has mental issues, she dumped the girls annd moved away with BF and kept VERY limited contact, she has endangeared them, she is incarcerated and she has not gave one red cent to help support them in over two years. This may VERY WELL be grounds enough to terminate rights. Maybe not.
i swear its only been two and a half weeks and i feel like ive gained 20lbs! Im starting running in the mornings tomorrow!
She is giving out bogus numbers right and left, She receives a voucher for SS's daycare and she surely had to prove employment before she enrolled him into a goverment funded program. I am thinking that maybe she did have a job initially and may have lost it in the meantime.. I'm not sure.. Our attorney is going to subpoena her work records to see if they coincide with the odd hours she has been throwing SS into daycare..
Shouldn't employment verification be kinda easy?
I think I'm more irritated than anything about this. So this past weekend SD was here and H's Uncle's were in town so we had a mini family reunion at his Aunt's house. It was great- tons of BBQ, music, all the kids played and swam. Mostly immediate family, my parents and some close friends. SD knew we were having it and obviously told BM about it. SD never says anything on the way home from H picking her up, but always waits until she gets to our house and I'm there to hear anything she has to say.
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