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So.. today is my first day back to work since having my baby. I dropped my baby off at daycare this am. He is only 4 and a half months old. BM is sitting at home, not working.. she has two 10 yr olds (dh's) and a 5 yr old (new hubby's) and now is pregnant w/a new baby they cant afford. She quit her part time job the minute she found out she was pregnant.. Soooo.. why am I pissed?? Because I have to be responsible and go to work.. so that we can afford things.. like picking up the skids and having them on EOW and doing crap w/them.
My question is...is it okay to check your teenage stepson's cell phone/texts?????
I found a text that my stepson sent a text about me to his girlfriend and she said something mean about me to him. So it is wrong to check his phone???
When DH arrived last Friday- guess what??? Right.. No SS!
He goes to the front office where they give BM a call, she says she will drop SS off in 5 min. WHAT?!
In court BM squawked about having to meet DH at a half way point- We were making the 250mile round trip twice each week to pick up and drop off while her fat a&& sat a home doing NOTHING and she loved that we were having to drive all that way, she said she refused to use her gas anymore.. seriously???
So, FH has been out of work since the end of June, due to medical issues. We missed CS in July and August, which he hasn't missed in the last 10 years. CS usually goes to pay for after school care, etc. which FSD(10) doesn't have these expenses anymore. We were very apologetic to BM about the fact that we would probably be behind a few months, but would catch back up with her as soon as we could. She told my FH that they were going to have to forclose on their house, etc. So we were feeling really bad.
Seems like at least where I live there are support groups for alcoholic divorced amputee midgets (not trying to offend you if you are one), but if you are a stepparent you are out of luck! I have looked but can't find anything. I think it would be so beneficial to be able to have MY weekly meeting to go to for support! Is it because it is unthinkable to general society that we steps struggle so much in this role? What are your thoughts?
I don't know what to do. My SD's BM calls and texts my husband and I 3-5 times each night (total 6 to 10 times)wanting to talk to her daughter. We have just been awarded custody my 2 skids a month ago. There is another skid that is 20. But SS16 and SD8 live with us now and not BM. She has always done whatever she can to put us through hell. Now that we have custody BM has started calling and texting all the time. My husband & I decided that we didn't want to cater to the BM and grant her every wish or she would be expecting us to from here on out.
Im a stepparent and my husband has custody of his children. The boys (16yrs old) want to have girls over and we allow this and when they come over they run through the house. Go into their bedrooms and when I tell them not to go in the bedroom the girls seem to get made about that. The one older girl has been over our house several times that her parents have dropped her off (almost all summer) and yesterday they dropped her off again and we still haven't met them.
I'm just so tired...of the constant nagging, the constant drama. My choice to disengage from DH and his 2 y/o has been the only possible option so that I may maintain my sanity. The fact that I think of leaving him every day is testament to the point where our relationship has reached. I AM UNHAPPY. I AM BORED. I CANNOT REMEMBER THE LAST TIME WE'VE EVEN HAD SEXUAL INTERCOURSE! When did our relationship get to this point? Was it in the midst of raising a precocious 7 month old? The burden of juggling both a military and nursing career?
FH thinks I don't want him disciplining my child (BD4). This is not the case. It is true that I am constantly telling him to BACK OFF. However, I would not mind him disciplining her, if everything that comes out of his mouth was not always negative. I told him this weekend that I cannot do this anymore. That yes, maybe I overcompensate for his nasty attitude by going easy on her. That with his child, he has the patience of a Saint, and with my child he has NONE.
We are not sure if we want to pursue this, but I am curious if you all know the laws. so here is the story. DH owed child support 10 years ago, made a verbal agreement with BM to pay direct and she wrote a letter to concerned (legal) parties forgiving him of past due amounts. he paid monthly until SD decided to live with us 4 years ago. BM pays nothing and has gone off the deep end lately. we have apyed the plane tickets to send Sd to BM for Christmas and summer visits only in the interest of the kid having a relationship with her mom.
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