It has finally happened. The SDs have come to live with us full time. After a lot of mucking around by the BM (trying to put one over on us and the government and still receive payments for the girls after getting rid of them!) Her desire to have freedom has overridden her desire for money and she has got all the legal stuff done correctly. I have become in her words a skank and my DH's boss and she will never speak to me again. All I can say is yay I wont have to listen to anymore of her BS.

So....SD has been seeing a therapist when in the care of BM. BM of course has not told DH of this. I just discovered it secretly. What now?
I am so sick of this BM doing whatever she wants and DH knows NOTHING!

She wrote a long (two page) letter to DH covering a number of issues. Most of them truly laughable or insane. I finally have DH "trained" to stop getting mad at her crazy antics. In the middle of his rage a couple weeks ago, I quietly asked, "Why do you expect so much of her? You expect her to be normal or rational. Has she ever been?" It was a breakthrough for him. I reminded him that no one expects a drunk person, or a mentally ill person to be rational...similarly we know The Weasel is never rational, so stop getting mad when she's not. He uses it like a mantra now.

Any suggestions? When I met my husband, his soon to be ex was pregnant, and had left him and filed for divorce. I should have known to stay away. She was the town whore who he thought he could change, so he married her and supported her and her child, and as soon as she got pregnant with his child she left. They couldn't, of course, get the divorce until the baby was born. She cheated on him the whole time they were together, and was, well, just herself. We got married about 6 months after the divorce was final.