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In less than a week we have had to clean up more of BMs irresponsibility with the skids. DH had agreed to purchase all of SS's school stuff and BM was going to take care of SD. Yeah right. So with less than 20 minutes until school (with the skids headed back to BMs after school), SD says I need a lunch for today (they take cold lunch when they are with us). She goes on to tell us that BM "forgot" to send money to school for her hot lunch. In addition SD's folders, backpack and school supplies are all last years because "mom doesn't get paid until next week".
After having counseling on Monday with BF (separate appointments) I was thinking that it might take a while to really see some results. I am surprised as anyone, there was one last night.
I have been a sm for 2 1/2 yrs, and it has been nothing but a challenge, with just a few rewards. One of the many challenges is my dh's family. They decided not long after we got married that they did not like me. I'm not sure if it is because they seem to be good friends bm or not. We have fought many times for custody of the kids, as of right now we have skids every other weekend. The BM and live in boyfriend have both gotten dui's and didnt have license at same time. The BM had the kids on the weekend she got her dui and sd10 had a friend sleeping over that night.
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I am doing some fill in work at an animal hospital this week and was finishing up a shift that brought me home around 8pm.
I come in and Zippy is sprawled across the living room couch watching "his" shows (Zippy has a state of the art techno equipment room and full living room furniture in a fully finished downstairs living area-but prefers to watch "his" shows on our 25 year old TV)-I don't mind once in awhile-but cartoons are not my favourite thing to watch in the evening (especially a 17 year old watching them!)
So yesterday we got 2 envelopes from the court. One was telling us that our court date is the 15th & that this would be a very short (15 minutes) appearance in front of the judge, more than likely to explain briefly what is going on. The other was a denial to BM's latest motion...get ready for this...BM requested that she do a conference call rather than "travel over an hour" to the court!!! My mouth dropped open! Yet another example of how BM acts like she's more important than everyone else. And also, in the copy of BM's motion are several blatant lies.
Last night was a really good night. SD16 was gone to stay with SIL by the time I got home. SD14, DH, and DS1 went for a walk, and got ice cream. I wish it could be like this ALL the time. Don't get wrong, SD14 isn't "perfect" but she is a normal teenager. She has her mouthy moments, and she makes her mistakes, but when she is told to straighten up, she does. No questions asked. In her not so great moments, she will just go to her room and give the silent treatment, but I much prefer that to the hell SD16 causes. She is a maniac, and I can't stand her any more.
Just wanted to thank all of you for some of the best advice this week. SD8 goes in today for her upper endoscopy. The grandparents are taking her. FH wanted to but can't miss more work...anyway, he said it's probably best that he isn't there...he can hardly stand seeing her go through that anyway.
As I look back on my years with SD, now 15, I can't help but see the signs I should have seen back then.
Conversation with SD when she was about 7
SD: what are you doing?
ME: trimming my bangs
SD: why don't you go to the beauty shop?
ME: I don't have time, and it's just one little spot bothering me. But you know you are not allowed to cut your own hair right?
SD: Yes I know
ME: Are you sure you understand that? You are not allowed to cut your hair.
SD: I understand.
3 Hours Later
The hubby's Ex is a pain in my a** she didn't want to take the children last weekend do to she had a wedding to go to with her other half and her child yes I said her it's 2 female's...
Now she is to take them Friday but she call's yesterday to say can I take them Saturday so I don't have to waste gas to see my son play soccer..Does she ever think this bugs any of her other children? Always changing things tells her daughter a few days ago I will see you Friday..
How much more can she screw up this little girls head..
a good PAS book, one designed for teens? SD16 is so angry and "hates" us, yet she has to live with us (have PC). Every time BM sees the girl, she gets ugly. Was doing good for a few days after episode over weekend(see prev blog), but then BM visits for lunch at school, and now SD gets rude and disrespectful again. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated
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