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Compared to a lot of people on here, I know I've got it pretty easy with BM, but I can't get over her feeling of entitlement to whatever she wants.
Yesterday she phoned my OH with about half an hours notice to say she'd got caught up and he would 'have' to go pick SS10 up from after school club. Now, as OH works 40 miles from home getting stuck in bad traffic is a fairly regular occurence, so I wonder what she would have done if he'd turned around & said he was.
Dear future SF of my SD,
I wish I could warn you what you are in for, but there is no way I could. However here are a few things you can look forward to.
All the extra stuff you are doing around the house is going to become expected and nessacary if you like to keep a clean home. And since I know you, I know you do.
The laundry you are doing for two right now, can be multiplied by two. Yea I know SD is only three and her clothes are small, however have you ever tried to potty train a kid? You have no idea what a pain laundry can be.
After seeing a psychologist for depression and anxiety i have realised the reason i am struggling so badly with skids is due to my husband... He never disciplines them and he just lets them tell me lies and then go back to their mother and lie as well. For example... i took them to their pony club (as mentioned in previous blog) and it turned out their mother and her mother were already there so i got mad as they could have picked them up!!! well i asked SD9 if they were pissed that i took them?
My brother-in-laws grandpa passed away this Saturday. Now his grandpa, raised him, he was more like a father figure than a grandpa.
My kids and I are going to the funeral as my two boys new this man very very well, spent plenty of time on the farm with him, learned about cows, and crops from him. They are very sad at his passing.
My SS has just had a complete breake down because it is not fair that BS10 gets to miss a day of school and he doesn't.
Please tell me that I am not being extra bitchy just because he is my SS.
I am seeking your advice...have you found it easy (using the term very loosely here, more like possible) to have a family of your own when you have step-children?
A little background.....DH and I have been married a year (this week) together two. When we met we were both very unhappily married and it was one of those, it just happened, kind of things, we were friends first and it progressed into more, though we never cheated. While we know everything moved fast for the kids (separated from ex's in January, introduced as dating partners in March, engaged in April, bought a home in August, married in October) we have tried to provide stability to the kids with regular schedules and rules as much as possible.
UPDATE:
When I got home from work yesterday, I explained to my SD6 that she is too young to be wearing a padded bra, if she wanted to wear a half undershirt that is fine, but NO padded bras – at least not at my house. BM came to pick up the SD last night. Not 20 minutes after she left I got a text message from BM telling me SD was upset that I told her she can’t wear her “big girl” bra. SO WHAT!!! She is 6! She is not wearing it at my house – end of discussion!
I've been lurking here for a while, this is my first vent. My Bio: Married for less than a yr to husband who has 2 kids (SS9 and SD11) from previous marriage, moved to the US to get married. We have the kids every weekend. I'm 6 months pregnant. I have no friends and family where I now live other than my in-laws and I do not personally know anyone else who is a stepmom.
Here goes:
I have been dating my fiance now for 3 years. In my opinion his ex is just crazy. Seems to me like she only does for the kids when its convienent for her, always saying she is the one that does everything. When in reality she only does when she wants to. My BF and I have had several "discussions" about her and the lack of "parental" responsibility, however he just now started putting his "foot" down with her and not doing all the running. The problem is, I don't want the children to suffer any more than they already have. Unfortunately, she does use him as the "bad person".
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