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I am now beginning to realize just how tough it is to instill some kind of discipline in the kids when the ONLY time you see them is on the weekends. There is simply not enough time to follow-through immediately after. BM does not share the same values and so it's no use trying to get her help in shaping behavior at her house. And the un-predictability of plans for the following weekend make it almost impossible for consequences to "roll-over".
I went to work the other day with the knowledge that SS10 was going to his friends house at around 12. BM was going to pick up SD14, and hang out. I told SS10 that he needed to go with BM just in case something happens and his friend could not come get him. I worked all day. When I got home I noticed the door would not close right. 
I talked to BF and he said that BM and SD17 hit SD14 and so SD14 ran inside the house and broke the doorjam. UGH.
The air has cleared -- a little -- around here, and I'm no longer "under cover." 
Time to take my old name back!
I'll post a blog about the last month one of these days, if it seems safe...
BB
BM phoned last night to say that she had treated SS10 for headlice (after waiting a week as we spotted one just before he went home last weekend!) and could OH bring his clippers round to cut SS10's hair before the 2nd treatment in a week's time. OH however, annoyed her by not immediately agreeing - firstly he doesn't want to use his clippers on SS10 until all the head lice are gone (unsurprising, as he doesn't want them) and that as last time he spoke to SS10 he wanted to grow his hair longer he would talk to him himself before cutting his hair anyway!
So this wkd, we went to visit my SIL who lives a few hours from us. My DH loves her kids and we dont get to see them much. So we decided to go for the wkd with my two SS's. It was HORRIBLE!! SS8 & SS4 both threw fits of jealously when DH played with neice who is 3 and nephew who is 18 mos. They were riducolous. They've never acted like this before when we've gone for a visit. Than on the way home we stopped for dinner. And at dinner SS4 doesnt remember his parents being together, he thinks I was there when he was born, even though we tell him I wasnt.
Hello all, i am married to a man who has a 4 1/2 year old son. My husband lived with his mother for the first two years of his sons life and the mother thinks she should be able to make all the decisions for this child who i will call T. Its been a battle from day one. The mil spoils T like theres no tomorrow and she thinks that my husband owes her because he lived with her for two years. T's mom sees him one day a week so she really is not involved much. The mil has been told to stop buying T. stuff but she wont listen and she sends home little things to rub it in our faces. T.
So both SD's have an important event coming up. I asked BM if she wanted me to bring the girls to her, so she could help them get ready. Telling her I would be more then willing but thought I would ask her first. She replied with, why don't we both help them, we are both moms.
So we will both be helping them get ready. I thought this was really sweet, and just wanted to share a good moment.
To start my week, my younger ss just came home from a weekend at BM house, and he is in such a fould , selfish,jelous,and petty mood he reminds me of his BM and he will be turning 12 in10 days then he can go live with his BM (FINALLY) sorry but the kid drives me nuts, I love him, but I just want to drop him off on the side of the road somewhere sometimes!! now there is no school on Teusday or Wednesday so BM want's us to take other ss14 because she doesn't want him at home because she will be at work!! HELLO, we will be at work too!!
I just wanted to pop by and give you all an update as to how I was doing. You all have given me many keystrokes of help and understanding into the female mind and I appreciate it. I wanted to first say THANK YOU!! Then I wanted to personally thank whomever suggested that if my SO at the time didn't have anything to hide then she wouldn't have accused me of going through her phone because I feel now you were spot on.
In two places, after falling in the bathtub because she was drunker than a skunk and survies!!! Ack. We found out through a third party/friend who spoke to BM personally. People, she broke her neck over a month ago. All she told us was that she had to go for surgery in a larger centre and would be "laid up" for a couple of months. She didn't even tell her own kids in case they might tell us. Her surgery must of been a huge success because she's out running about already.
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