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Frustrated...

antidrama's picture

Why is it that I come up with all these cute ideas of things to do for SD11 (going to her fav place to eat even though DH and I HATE it to celebrate her 1st day of middle school was the example last night) and she runs up to DH and thanks HIM not me. He always gets the credit for the things I come up with. I'll buy her flowers randomly just "because" or a nail polish color I think she would love, or go to the store and get all of her favorite things and I get NOTHING... But DH does the slightest thing (that was probably my idea anyway) and she acts like she won the lottery.

A few days of peace but now back to hell.

Stepinsanity's picture

I had a great few days riding with my son halfway across the country so he could have his jeep with him on base. The night before we were to fly home hell started coming back. I really don't understand my sd14. The skids were with us till last Monday and a few days before they went home sd must have started her period. When I called dh Tuesday night (our last night of our trip) he informs me that when he was doing laundry he found two pair of sd's panties completely soaked through with blood and a pair of her pants that were just as bad.

Sad Dad Syndrome

poisonivy's picture

I've noticed that lately, whenever DH speaks with skids by phone, after he hangs up, his mood is really sour....I mean like totally depressed. I understand that it must be extremely hard for him not being able to see them whenever he wants, but his change in mood makes this part of his family feel like crap. Last weekend, we were getting ready for a family outing (DH, me, Bios), we had a really fun weekend planned....then the phone rings and its the skids. Well, DH went from absolutely stoked to absolutely unmotivated in 0 to 60. He didn't even participate in the events we'd planned.

O/T Skinny Jeans

mamacat_30's picture

Ok, so I know we have members from around the world, I live in America, California, Southern California. Not sure what the fashions are elsewhere, but here we have "skinny jeans". Everyone wants skinny jeans, skin tight skinny jeans. I DON'T LIKE SKINNY JEANS! When my SD12 wears skinny jeans with skinny tank tops or tight shirts it's almost like she's wearing a full body leotard! Just because her skin isn't showing doesn't make it appropriate, does it? I don't know, maybe I'm just a little old fashioned....or prudish....

Biting my tongue

riekate's picture

I try really hard to bite my tongue and not react to anything my Skids biodad says or does to keep the situation amblicable. I try to put myself in his shoes but sometimes it gets so frustrating. Yesterday I took the boys SS4 and SS5 to have dinner with their dad. He has 50% custody but due to his choice only has them about 4 nights a month and an occasional dinner. I just feel like it is non-stop criticism from him about little things with the kids.

marital or family counseling?

grayskies's picture

has anyone sought therapy for the issues they are dealing with in regards to their skid situation? tensions remain very high in our house, and nothing has been resolved since the whole ss17 tore up my garden/my birthday fiasco. i have basically withdrawn from dh and ss, and have been doing a lot of thinking. dh and i talked last night and i told him that i can't live like this, and we really do need to make some changes or we're walking down a very bad road towards divorce. he agreed, but insisted that we find a family therapist and that ss17 attend with us as a family.

O/T situational depression and antidepressants

AlexandraL's picture

The past year and a half has been extremely stressful for me. I left a well-paying job, family, friends, my hometown to move to exbf's hometown to try and create a blended family, which was extremely stressful. In addition to our blended family failing, we broke up, which has been very difficult. I also lost my job after the new year and despite working my ass off to get another job and several close calls (between me and one other person...other candidate getting chosen) I am still unemployed.

need advice!! situation stressing out dd3 or normal behaviour?

txcajunmom's picture

ss9 and ss6 have recently been placed with dh and i since being removed from bm's care. together dh and i have dd3 and ds5 months. ss6 has add/adhd and is a handfull to say the least. he started daycare and school this past monday, since then dh has received 3 calls from daycare and school stating that ss6 has slapped a little girl, beat up a little boy, and at school was beating up a few kids and calling them names and cussing them out.

Found out SO refused to have another child with BM - but he's going through IVF with me

LizGrace65's picture

:jawdrop: SO never mentioned that BM wanted more children and SO refused. They had SS16 by "accident" and got married a year or so later. They were together until shortly before SO and I got together (I was not SO's first relationship post marriage, but close to it). SS was 10 when SO and I got together.

I've never had kids, and had tried. After a while of that, you just figure you can't. I left exH at 31 and didn't find myself in a stable long term committment again I got together with SO at the age of 36. And we were focused on SS, who was custodial with us.

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