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I sent SS & SD friend requests on FB last April. SD messaged me about why she denied my request, & I have to say, I wasn't surprised. However, SS never did accept or deny. I've noticed in the last year that he has created more profiles, & in looking at SD's page (through my "secret" page) I saw that SS created a 4th profile on Saturday. He accepted my friend request on Saturday as well, however on his very first profile that he has told DH he never uses.
Yesterday started much like any other day. DH, woke up SD to take her to Temple. I got up with him and we dropped off SD and had a quiet breakfast, just the two of us, to connect for the day. Then we came home and I decided to clean out the master bedroom closet (it had gotten scary in there) DH left shortly there after to pick up SD. Around 12:00 BD called and said she was coming home from dad's. SD was finishing up her homework, BD came home and straightened her hair and applied her make up.
We had his kids over. His eldest child took our baby and brought her in another room he was in. He then leaves her and joins us in the living room. I'm nervous, his all laughs and smiles. He then cuddles me and feels my heart pounding. He then says do you want me to get the baby. I say its up to you. He takes the baby politey and brings her into the main room.
Yesterday we (my bf and i) discussed our appartment a bit. He said we should consider moving to a bigger place (we have 2 bdrooms), and he said 'what are we gonna do when we get a baby, where is my son gonna sleep then' well i said hes gonna sleep where he sleeps now. He was concerned what if we get a girl, then they cant really share a room. Whatever really.
Well now DH is scheduled to go to court again for the 4 time for the very same contempt case against BM. A short recap - BM has been alienating DH since beginning of SDs life. Several cases back and forth to fight for visitation, custody, money.... all very tiring to even discuss again really.
I wonder if there is any Christian advice out there for me. I am struggling to love and accept my stepchildren (son 15, daughter 12). They are so different from me and they make me really anxious and to be honest embarrassed sometimes. My stepson argues with everything I say or with anything anyone says and my step daughter loves telling any guests we have of my faults. Both are loud and obnoxious a lot and my home has always been quiet. I pray for patience and kindness and for God's love to flow through me. Most of the time I can endure and I try to be encouraging but I am tired.
Alright...we can't come to an agreement on this...and I won't set a date anyway until we move out of the crazy house.
My reasons for not wanting children in the wedding or ANY children at the reception -
1. I think receptions are for adults...it's a night for couples and single people to get out, mingle, laugh, drink, dance, and have a blast to celebrate a marriage. My parents used weddings as their escape and a night for "them" when we were little. We NEVER attended weddings with them.
So BM hands-off my kids to me Friday night and she planned for them to spend Saturday night at their aunt's house, you know, so they could spend time with their cousin. Besides which, she has something she wants to volunteer for on Sunday morning. So, really, what she wants to do is dump the kids off, because their cousin - wait for it - wait for it - is four years old. BS and BD are 11 and 9 respectively. Can we please be serious? She just wanted to put the kids somewhere so that she wouldn't have to take them with on Sunday. This, at face value, is fine.
SD was over for the weekend. Some of her amusing comments included...
~ "When I'm having fun with you guys, I forget about my mom."
~ "My mom might get kicked out of her job."
~ "I don't know if I'm ever gonna get a stepdad," (not likely... lmao)
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