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We found out yesterday that BM is 8wks along. Another poor child will be brought into this world with a shitty mom. Very sad. We hae mixed emotions about it. The way she is, this will most likely make her forget about SS. We went to court yesterday(it was a nightmare that I will blog about when I have the time), she told dh that she wants to settle and will agree to anything to do so. I don't want this to make SS develop an attachment to her as he so badly wants us to have a baby. This will make Bm's druggy violent bf be more of a permanent figure now.
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So I have been thinking, another poster recently posted on the fact that sometimes in trying to make the world so fair for steps it actually becomes unfair to bios, which I completly agree with.
People want us to treat our steps the same as our children whenever there is something "fun" but when it comes to rules and expections.....no....God forbid we hold them to the same standerd.
Ok... where to begin??? I have been in my stepdaughters life since the little shit has been born... Literally been born.... I went to the hospital before anyone and visited her. She was 2lbs and 4oz... Premature little cute lil alien... Loved her more than anything... Got along with her mother cause I had to keep the peace between my hubby and the bitch... My hubby and I use to fight over getting her for his weekends and his holidays. He would say he was too busy... I made it a point to include her in "our" lives.
Has anyone ever experienced this situation or anything like it?
I do not have a relationship with my husbands 2 daughters so this actually affects only my husband at the moment. I think everyone here would say that I'd 'disengaged' with them. Won't bore you with the reasons but I had to distance myself from them.
"Other's always have their OWN expectations on what OUR role as stepmothers should be."
I read that line in another forum. I believe there is so much truth to that.
Just want to say, I know I'm going on and on about ss, it has been 7 years of bottling up stuff, getting upset at my wife if she diapproves of my "two cents". But it is helping to let you all in my home, if you will, I really love this site, I will have plenty to blog about real soon, because my ss is 13, and you know how that goes,
Today the bm took my ss to a new theme park for his special day. First off let's start my saying his bf said that he wanted to be the one to take him for his special day, so it's odd that she was the one that ended up taking him. Once my ss got home and was getting ready for bed, he was letting me know that his bm made it very clear that i was to wash and return the new clothes that he came home in the next day with him when he returned to her house. The fact that she said that didn't bother me but the way that he told me she insisted that it was done did.
For me it is extra ridiculous. My IL's last yr bought SD enough crap to completely cover a queen sized bed. Due to the drama that is BM and her family and the RO, SD gets over there when BM needs a babysitter and of course the IL's will drop anything to spend a few minutes with the little darling. Can someone explain to me WHY they need to buy hundreds upon hundreds of dollars on toys that they insist stay at their house for the kid to play with maybe once a month?
My mother is PASing the skids. I've been very upset with her behaviors over the last three months, and just yesterday realized what is happening.
She is PASing them from ME SPEFICIALLY.
She refuses to follow the rules I set out for the kids. She argues with me and interferes when I punish them (they get sent to a whopping 2 minutes of time out here and there). When one of them starts fussing about something, she interferes with me and tries to give them different options when I have clearly stated they don't have options.
I have deleted this blog for privacy concerns. Thanks for all the input.
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