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Last night after SS13's 10 min call with BM, his attitude changed. DH sat at the table eating dinner with him and said SS was "freaking out", had butterflies in his stomach and looked like he was about to cry. DH asked him if he missed his mom and he said no. Something must have taken place on the call because SS was now too afraid to watch tv alone upstairs.
I have been divorced for over 10 years. Our children are now 18 (daughter) & 14 (son). I have been dating this guy for 1 &1/2 years. He doesn't have a problem with dating a woman with kids but he's never experienced dating a woman where the kids father is active in the childs life. Well my kids father is active in their lives but my boyfriend doesn't want him to be & because of this the kids dislikes him & feels he's trying to take over. Part of the problem is also jealousy (he has falsely accused me of my ex).
Apparently Ss wants to go visit his mother. Who is in prison by the way. I cannot for the life of me understand this boy. Things are finally getting better. But I am sure seeing her will open up a bunch of issues.
My Dh tried telling him it wasn't a good idea and it ends up in a yelling match between them. My Dh is just so hurt. He hates that woman with every fibre of his being. But Ss still wants for her in way that he doesn't with us. And it hurts me too.
So last night I get a doozy of a bomb dropped on me. The phone rang at dinnertime and we didn't recognize the number so the machine picked it up. It was some family counselor who was calling to confirm an appointment time for ss an dh and I! :jawdrop: So I tell dh to stop what he's doing and call this woman back asap. Apparently bm set up the appointment because ss has been having "anxiety" issues (acting clingy, hiding, sulking) Theses are all things I have been discussing with dh for the last 9 months to which he turns a blind eye and acts like nothing is wrong.
exfil passed away on the 2nd, he was able to make it home on hospice and that was because of me making desperate phone calls as an intern to the ambulance service who took him home because the family was afraid he wouldn't make it home as they were going to have to wait hours for the ambulance to do the transfer I convinced them to get them the next available truck. My exh was with him holding his hand his family filling the house. I got the call within moments of his passing from my bff his cousin. I called my dd and told her then cried.
Happy Fourth of July!
SS16 comes home tomorrow from his month long visit with BM. Since he's not in school, SO is less restrictive about his video game time. XBox is in the living room on the big screen.
One of the stepmoms on this site has a rule that the kids turn off the video games as soon as she comes home from work. I want to implement that same rule. SO gets really defensive every time I try to have a say regarding something his son does, even if it's something that affects me.
DH, our son 17 months, and I were on our way to my grandmothers house for a family get together. (FYI: Grandfather passed in feb and we were very close) On our way there DH, calls up ss5 so he can talk to him. Well BM made up something like usual so she could talk to DH and said that SS5 was not available. When DH got off the phone, he said in an annoyed voice "I was nice". I asked who he was talking to his mom or bm. He told me bm. So we got into a conversation about how I try to be civil and nice when I have to deal with them but it almost always turns into a fight.
Hi all well my bs12 has finally been diagnosed with ODD. I am not surprised as I have known for some time that there was more to his behaviour than met the eye. Finally the psychologist has a name for it and I'm not sure whether to cry or feel relieved. I haven't blogged about my son before as I usually come here for advice on SO/SK issues. I love my boy more than anything but my life is taken over with constant discipline and hard lines that I have to draw with him to try and get the message across that his behaviour is bad. He isn't violent but he is argumentative and annoying.
I'm sitting here thinking about our financial future. DH and I are expecting our first child together. He already pays over $500 a month for SS13. He was never married to bm and SS was the result of a ONS. I can't help but feel so bitter about this situation. I did our state's support calculator awhile ago and found that his obligation would only be reduced by about $20 when our child is born. I also hypothetically calculated what he would owe me if we got divorced. It was over $650. Yet if we stay married, the state says my baby is worth 20 bucks.
Dh just called from work to tell me that stepmil wants us to meet them for bowling to celebrate sil23's birthday on Sunday. I said no.
Funny, no one acknowledged my birthday yesterday. Not even a FB message. No acknowledged bs1's birthday in May and no one from his family knowledge bs4's birthday in April.
They can all kiss my ass. That is all.