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I have a SD (12) and a SS (10). They do not live with us, in fact they live out of state. My Hubby and I have been married for little over a year. In the begining BM told the sk they were not aloud to like me or talk to me. It has not gotten any better. Now we only hear from SD and SS when they want money. My Hubby pays his child support and pays for insurance ans she claims both on her taxes. For a while there BM crazy mother called my phone a couple times and cursed me out for no reason. My hubby and BM had been divorced for a couple years before we met.
I have been with my current husband for about 12 years now, since my step daughter was 5. There has been nothing but drama ever since, due to his ex trying to run the show. She is a vindictive, manipulative lier, who sees her daughter as a paycheck. There have been too many occasions to count where my husband has made arrangements to pick his daughter up and they have been impossible to contact; this has happened many times around the holidays. My husband is a passive person, and tries to be nice......probably too nice. She just walks all over him....and yes, he lets her.
The drama continues and so does my rant. So about a week ago ss22 tells me to f*ck off and he gets kicked out of my home. Less than 72 hrs later he texts his father that he needs $350 to move into an apartment something he was supposed to have done 2 months ago. So DH genius that he is gives SS the money with the condition that SS shows up and signs a payment agreement as he already defaulted on two previous ones. What do you think happened? That's right ss never showed! DH rants and raves all weekend that SS is dishonest and he is a liar.
ss15 didnt' go home until Monday night when we took him home from his Friday visit. now he's back again. seriously - he just left Monday - we just saw him when we took him and ss17 out for supper last night - I got out of having to bring him home but here he is again. NOT looking forward to going home tonight. why does he have to be there EVERY weekend. How do I politely bring up to DH that I would like time other than during week (starting to invade that now too) without ss15 being there.
DH casually announced (right before dinner) there was a change of plans with his kid's visitation schedule for the first week of the summer.
Hello.....we (me) spent three long nights working out a way to fit 6 weeks of uninterrupted visitation into our summer and now you're changing it? Two days before she's supposed to get here? And you didn't think to give me the courtesy of a heads up?? You just made a decision, without including me, about something that's going to affect me? Hello dumb-ass......haven't we played this idiotic game before???
After working her very first job (a part time position) and she will be 20 on Monday, SO's DD was told "she was not a good fit" for the job. She trained for only 5 days. Now this...after flunking out of college freshman year and the same at junior college sophmore year. I was optimistic that this was a start, a baby step toward becoming independent, since she's shown zero responsibility in her past endeavors. Strange thing is she got the job through a friend, who's relatives own the company. I really really want to know where the 'fit' went wrong.
Whew, I've been busy reading, writing, deleting and re-writing. This is what I've come up with.
Advice please...
I found the attached letter that you wrote to your father. I have to say that I've known how you felt about me since the moment we met. Your feelings about me came through in your actions and attitude toward me very clearly. However, seeing it on paper was the reality check.
So I saw another poster(can't remember who) just posted about "what do your skids call you"? Which is an amazing post!! And I was gonna comment but mine will be long.. And I'd like some thoughts on this 
I am a bit tired on the "get any job, pay your cs" bashing that has been going on here lately...it is so very obvious that many people who complain about this have no clue about the real world, heck! most probably DON'T have a job or haven't worked in the last 10yrs to see what has been happening to thousands of americans losing jobs to off-shoring, etc...
in worship and awe, does not mean that I don't love SKIDS. No, they won't be getting any red carpet arrival or marching band welcomes around our house when they show up for visitation, but they are treated with respect, they are well-taken care of and they get a lot of much needed attention that is lacking in the home of their BM...so, no, I don't want them around all the time. I don't cry when they leave, I don't buy them useless junk that that they don't need and I will definitely discipline them when they need it....hmmmmm....
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