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I know that sounds so mean. My SD is only 4 years old, but she is possibly the worst behaving child that I have EVER dealt with in my life! I have raised 3 of my own daughters on my own who are now 13, 11, & 8 - and while they have their moments, I would never allow the same behavior from them! When SD comes over, my entire household is put into Chaos. My BD (age 
cries, and asks why she has to come over. SD terrorizes everyone that she is around!
I don't know about you guys but it's not my 19 yr. old SS that is killing my marriage, it's his dad! He refuses to deal with his son's pot smoking and behavior. He says that he will pick his battles and that is not one of them. In the mean time I have an 18 yr. old son and a 15 yr. old daughter that live with us and ride to school in his car everyday. I have a 25 yr. old daughter that has struggled with addiction for the past 11 yrs. and it all started with smoking pot. I don't know if I can go through this again with someone elses almost grown kid.
Can anyone tell me what is the point of mediation if the BM is a liar, untrustworthy and a control freak? Instead of finding BM in contempt he ordered mediation for her to prove herself and if she doesn't then she will be found in contempt. The only thing that I can see to mediate is whether BF should pay the couseling and chiropractor fees. How do you mediate a violation she has already committed?
I agree how the system is messed up. BF works his ass off every week and has very little to show for it. His pay check after taxes and child support is $246.00. Tell me how anybody can survive off this. In the mean time BM barely puts in 20hrs per week, collects her child support filed for CCPO ( daycare supplement, WIC,medicare and the Lonestar card. Now the CCPO her mother collects and gives back to BM and pays her bills. She has no rent because her mother owns the trailer she lives in.
Just talked to BF and he gets to keep the tax exemption every other year. All contempt charges were dropped against him. But the judge ordered mediation on all her violations of the Joint Parenting Agreement (WTF?) and on the chiropractor and couseling bills. Basically as BF's attorney put it, he is giving her a chance to correct herself. Her contempt charges have not been dropped and can be reinstated if she fails to cooperate with the mediation.
I feel like all I ever do is complain about SD and make it seem like she does nothing right. It isn't true. There are times when she does nice things. Yesterday, for example, I came home to a clean kitchen, including a dishwasher that had been emptied and refilled with her dishes for the day. The table was even cleaned. Now, she hadn't put some of the dishes away, but it was a start.
Just talked to soon to be DH before he went in to the court room. His attorney said BM's attorney is going to focus on the tax exemption and not paying our half of the chiropractor and counseling bills. He is sure we will get her on the contempt charge for her numerous violations of the Joint Parenting Agreement. On the tax exemption it could go either way, BM says he should not get it every other year as we no longer keep ss for weekend visitation every other week.
So I have been thinking about my situation and just trying to take it day by day. One of the worst things that I can do, particularly with major life decisions, is make hasty choices. I have a lot to consider and a lot to think about. And in doing so, one thing that has dawned on me for sure is that this situation, my blended family situation and my marriage is just not working for me.
I am a mother of two boys (13 and 10) Recently married, but together for 3 years, my husband doesn't seem to see what his daughter is doing by manipulating him and his ex wife. He can't stand his ex, of course so anything his daughter says negative about her mom, he's ok with. I'm not ok with that. I have 2 boys who also have a father in their life and would not want them to speak or treat me the way she does her mother while with us. The thing about it is that I know she is doing the same thing to him/us when she is at her biomom's house.
Lots of personal stuff has been going on, and I've only been on long enough to review a few posts here and there. I feel a bit out of the loop, both here and towards life in general.
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