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Two days ago on the way to SS counselors appt. DH asked 6 year old SS if he still crawls in bed with BM. SS couldn't answer, he clammed up and wouldn't answer. DH kept at him saying he would ask his mother and of course then SS admitted that yes he still does. Something along the lines as he does before he goes to bed or watches TV and then she puts him in his bed. Really didn't get a straight answer. At counselor DH was rather upset and told counselor this is still going on.
Today my dh got a phone call from ss's school. He had been horsing around in school, and even though he was told twice to discontinue, he didn't listen and got in trouble. My dh came home from work, grounded ss and gave him a stern talking to about how important school is, and how he isn't entitled to distrupt other students in school. Then ss just laughed at his dad. My dh got in his face to let him know he was walking a fine line.
BF's that is. So we are "engaged" (no egagement ring but we had said July this year and have the wedding bands) and I have been truly looking at my role in this family and undecided if I was actually gonna be able to go through it. I have real issues with the fact that BM #2 (ex wife) will be a constant part of my life. I am having a big problem accepting that as my lifes fate. I just found out this afternoon that BF has been lying to me (yet again, we just went through this in July, August, September and October 2006) about his contact with his daughters BM (BM#2).
Well, this is my first time here - hoping that getting some of my angry feelings out will help - as well as some good feedback to help me deal with and move on. A year ago I get a call from an old "kinda" boyfriend from high school (25 years ago). He had separated from his wife of 23 years - and thought he would "look me up" since he had heard that I had gotten divorced (again).
We attended my boyfriend's family funeral yesterday and all went relatively well. The exwife said hello and I tried to give the daughter a kiss and she turned her cheek. She never uttered a word. Then they came back towards her dad and she did give him a kiss on the cheek but never spoke to him and went to the other side of the room. As awkward as it was, at least the rest of the family (with the exception of one niece who has always snubbed me) were all very happy that we were there. We did forego the reception after the services and we went home.
As I sit here to write this my stomach is in knots. I feel so unbelievably out of my depth, so sick to my stomach.
DH and I are nearing what I think is the end of the road. We have discussed separating - and as a last resort (I know we should have gone earlier) we are going to counselling. Of course DH thinks I am the one with issues about his ex. Those of you who know my story know it's untenable - as Anne and BIOMOM have both correctly stated.
SD truly is a joy. I am so blessed to have her in my life and every time BM is acting up, I remind myself that if it weren't for her, I wouldn't have this lovely girl as my SD, or as my daughters' doting big sister. I feel terrible for those stepparents out there who not only deal with a vindictive BM, but disrespectful skids who blame them for all that is wrong in the world. I am so fortunate to love and be loved by her. I can't get over what a wonderful little girl she is.
So today i was logged onto my b/fs yahoo messenger by accident and realized that his ex has beed emailing him all day. I have no idea what they're talking about because i cant get into his email. I just saw the message that pops up evertytime he gets an email. I asked him about and he said they're just talking about the girls and her broken rib...
here she goes again BM plans an overnight to a museum on our visitation day without consulting w/us first. irritating us once again.
BF had court yesterday. Had attorney file petiton for Indirect Civil Contempt against BM for her constant violations of the Joint Parenting Agreement including but not limited to: not notifying BF of serious illness (staph infection) the 4 yr old had, of two trips to the ER because of it and not notifying BF of surgery needed for it after 4 yr. old was admitted to the hospital. BM also took him out of state from 1/3/07 to 1/25/07 when she is only allowed to take him for a one week period 3x a year.
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