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On my part. I have just realized that having SS16 fulltime, is like having a permanent irritating houseguest, whats more I get to pay for the privelige of being constantly inconvenienced in my own home! I also realize on some level SS16 can feel this and I feel powerless to change it by myself. If DH would only step up to the plate and stop guilt parenting so much, I might be able to tolerate SS. I know at 18 SS will still be with us but we will no longer be "legally" responsible for him and that is some compensation.
Any thoughts about your situations?
Well my MIL is up here visiting with all of us for the week. Yesterday she spent the day with my son, & I.....we had a great day, and was a good time to catch up. Of course we talked alot about the skids. If it was not for her, we would know nothing. SS does seem to be doing quite well, is holding his grades up (first year of H.S.) and is getting into graphic design/art. He does have a flair for it, I hope he keeps it up.
About everything that is going on and what the proper age would be for kids to get out get a job and live on their own.Ok so dh says that as long as they are in school they can live with us which i agree to a certain extent.Maybe highschool years right?But past that they are adults and if they go to college are we still suppose to support them?Frick that means they can live with us into their late 20s i dont think so!!!
On the phone with H this morning. He told me he wanted to go to Texas and buy a lot this spring. Ummm, we did that last year. He made a down on a lot on Ebay :jawdrop: sight unseen, and of course it was up to me to get our money back when it wasn't a location we would want.
So if you have read my recent blogs about ss not wanting to take the bus and giving him the 40.00 to get his hair cut at bms house and bus fare to get home which he didnt take the bus but came home with nothing.He asked me this morning for another 40.00 for a game for his computer wtf i couldnt believe it after slamming the door on his dad in his face and hanging up on him.I told my dh he asked for this money and dh said he sure has some nerve.So dh said no fricken way!!!
First off I have to say thank God for this website. It is at times the only thing keeping me grounded. DH and I have been married for 1 year and 3 months (but who's counting!) He came into the marriage with 2 kids (SD 11, SS 9) and an egomaniac ex wife. I came into the marriage with a nice savings, a good job, and a thorough lack of understanding about the stress that was to come! Together we also have BD 9mo. We have the skids 50% of the time on a whacked out placement schedule (which is completely based around BM's work schedule so she can always have the skids on her days off).
The problem with this is that DH won't send SS down for visitation every other weekend to BM without an address.
BM states she doesn't have to give us an address and will hold us in contempt but we were told we don't have to send SS down without knowing where he is staying.
BM is starting this crap again because I'm pregnant and her employer just got a letter telling them to garnish her wages for child support.
I'm so annoyed I really need those weekends without SS he's driving me even more crazy since I got pregnant!
After SS13 birthday party last Friday, BF asked me to stay until he came back from dropping off the skids to BM so we could talk. We spoke a lot, we both expressed how we were feeling and how a lot of the stresses around us such as BM, finances and my job just to name a few are affecting how we communicate, hence why there are so many arguments and the constantly going around in circles.
We are just taking baby steps for now, too many things to tackle at once.
And then….
Sorry so long, but I just couldn’t stop, feels good to be able to tell people who understand what it’s like.
To stay in your relationship with dh if your stepkids don't like you and their mother trys to turn them against you?Or is it better to leave?
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