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UPDATE - OMG - SOMEONE IS IN TROUBLE AND ITS BM LOL

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Submitted by libby on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 10:49am

Well we got a call last night from the Secretary of the Department of Human Services -Even though the Court Order Stated to pay the BM direct - Even though we have a copy of every check - Even though we have a copy of her signature on the back - Even though we have the bank statements showing they cashed - And even though it stated CHILD SUPPORT IN THE MEMO WITH THE CHILDRENS NAME ON IT.

THE STATE WILL NOT COUNT THIS TOWARDS CHILD SUPPORT - WHY YOU MAY ASK - THEY JUDGE DIRECTED DH TO PAY HER DIRECT?

Any Good To Come From Sending Money to Angry Absent SD??

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Submitted by musical1 on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 10:19am

My SD was PAS'ed to the maximum by her very angry and manipulative biofather 2 1/2 years ago. Biofather was mostly absent in SD's life until she hit 13 yo, then he suddenly made a lot more contact and turned on the massive PAS behavior and promised Everything imaginable, BMW car, Blackberry, free access to alchohol, etc. finally culminating in the purchase of a "County Club" home in FL and agreeing to let SD's girlfriend come and live with them too! SD gave up on school with us and was failing classes refusing to even go to school demanding to move to FL from VA to live with biofather.

Do as I say - not as I do???

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Submitted by jesses girl on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 9:35am

DH picked up SS8 last night for an extended weekend, and SS mentioned that he and BM had gone to visit a "friend" (more like FWB) of BM's out of state. This is interesting, because according to the CO - BM and DH need to have written consent to take SS out of state.

In the past, BM has made DH literally jump through hoops to get her consent to take SS on our vacations, but this biotch thinks that she's above the law, and can just take SS where ever and when ever she pleases.

Do we have lives?

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Submitted by schrob01 on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 9:15am

I'm not putting anyone down here and I'm including myself here when I ask this question, do we have lives OUTSIDE of what is going on with our SKid issues? I look forward to reading what everyone's going thru here at the website. I can't stay away to be honest. It helps to know that we are all going thru this TOGETHER. But this morning after reading some of the entries, I thought to myself, boy, all we ever do is complain about our situations. Or sometimes I'll read a blog & the person will state that she is getting ready to marry her BF but.....

New at this..

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Submitted by newbie27 on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 8:23am

Hi.. im getting married soon to a great guy with two young kids who we now have every other weekends and a few days during the week. He pays a goodly amount in child support (that we barely afford) and we always take them to do fun things and buy all the foods that they love to eat. (especially since they are 2 VERY picky eaters). I have no kids of my own. Although I love them and we get along great i have a very selfish thought that makes me feel bad. I love them and I love him..

SD12 is having a bday party and sleep over...thinking about not being home...

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Submitted by Manda on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 4:04am

So, I guess SD12 called FH last weekend while she was at her moms and asked if she could have a bday party for herself with her girlfriends and a sleep over and he said yes without even asking me or discussing it with me. He just told me last weekend that this was happening so, of course I was totally pissed. I told him when he sprung it on me that I might not be home for it. I don't think that he believed me...

I SO do not mean to be rude/mean/out of line...hope I'm none of those things....

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Submitted by emptyrisksagain on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 1:47am

But I've been thinking ABOUT us tonight...OK, I admit it...I've been thinking of this for MANY nights (and days, and mornings, LOL) about WHY we do what we DO.

Here's my position:
1. I love my husband, even though we HAVE NOTHING in common when it comes to parenting.
2. I WANT to be with this man.
3. We have a lot of laughter together, we support one another, and we are still attracted to one another after all these years.

Other than those things, though? Hell, I wonder why I stay...why any of us choose to stay. Ya know?

I love this counselor!

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Submitted by Freedom2005 on Fri, 08/14/2009 - 1:14am

I had my counseling on Wed... and she started off with "you are so good for SS12, you have no idea!!!"

I was so moved! She told me how SS12 just bursted out in front of his dad and told her (counselor) how much he like how I identified with him that the adults yell at him all the time (his dad and his uncle that lives with us)

I went to this poor guy after I saw he was about to cry for his uncle yelling at him for not doing as he was told. Now, SS12 was in the wrong, but when you have 2 men coming down on you like you have just killed someone... my heart went out to him.

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