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VENT - LONG!!!! Well we found out the new drama for this

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weekend pick up. It is just frustrating dealing with her and her foolishness.

So just as a little background. The first weekend in August 1 - 3, BM called DH and said she wanted to switch weekends to 7 - 8 August. Well when DH explained to her that he needed to stick with the court order which says 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekend. She didn't accept it and said that she had to have that first weekend for school shopping. Then DH explained to her she is a teacher and is off during the week and he would exercise his visit no matter what. He then told her 7-9 was his wedding anniversary weekend and he had paid for travel that could not be reimbursed. He then told her again he would get his daughter according to the court order.

Needless to DH got his daughter that weekend.... and BM's boyfriend still took her last week to get the clothing for school. So it did not mess up her ploy to get child support and the boyfriend to pay for the clothes.

Ok fast forward to this weekend. It is his court ordered weekend... but SD has her school orientation today at 7pm. So since we live out of state and the court order states she has to meet us 1/2 the way - 1.5 hours drive for both of them. She proceeded to tell DH last night. The orientation would last 2.5 hours and she would not be able to get on the road until 930pm which was too late and suggested he give up this weekend.

So to comply with her saying it was to late for her to drive.......DH asked her to switch weekends and she replied she has set her school schedule for Friday classes and would no longer meet him on Fridays and she has to work (going back to teaching middle school) so meeting him half way would only work if she was a stay at home mom. LOL! She has been working and meeting him for the past year meeting time at 630pm and she gets off 245pm.

So then we just talked to our lawyer and was advised since she is not willing to confirm switching weekends to exercise his visitation given to him by the court 1st - 3rd - 5th weekends of each month. DH called and text her exactly what the lawyer said. She is still refusing to follow the court order to meet him. Now she is saying if he lives at 8pm from the orientation it is too late for him to drive and that she already made plans for SD to see an IMAX movie on Saturday.

So now we are driving 4 hours to NC to be there by 7 pm this evening to attend the school orientation (which when we called we were informed only should last 45 mins to 1 hour just like when we attended last year.) and then picking up SD for his visitation. Which is against the court order - but hey it is another time she has not followed the court order again.

I am going to make sure I have the camcorder to tape the interaction between them again and any arguments she attempts to start. Hopefully, it will be pleasant and cordial, hopefully she will not cause a scene at school. So this will another DVD to add to the collection the Lawyer already has if she does..... I don't think she realizes or even cares when we have the DVD there taping her foolishness.

Meanwhile when talking with her last night -DH caught her in a lot of lies for the reasons she says DH should not see her again until the court case on 9 Sept.....

- the orientation
- her supposed classes on Friday for her Masters Degree
- SD has an assignment due on that monday that DH can not help her with
- and not wanting to drive because it is too late....

She got so frustrated that she told someone so that he could hear, "I can't wait to go to court, Oh I can't wait."

If you look back in my blog - you see the list of information we have against her that has been signed by her - it is ridiculous, plus the counselor notes that are in our favor, and a lot of other things...

Mind you she is taking DH to court 9 Sept (continued 3 times) to take away joint custody, stop visitation, and up child support and filed an affidavit and motion stating Myself, His Mother and Sister abuse SD, we leave her in unknown places and abuse child.... etc....

Now 2 weeks before court she is trying to block his visits for some reason. (And all this comes after she found out 8 August was our anniversary) It is all so funny.

Plus the fact - I researched her school graduate programs. and to our surprise the schedule for all of the grad classes have absolutely no classes on Fridays at all. So we printed it out - and the undergrad classes as well (even though she is pursuing her Master's of Education/English). There are no classes last semester, this semester, or next semester that offer Friday classes after her work hours when she could get there. It is 45 minutes from her and she works until 245pm.

So we printed that out as well. DH called the admissions office today and re-verified there are no Friday classes offered in her program. So we can not wait for her to get on the stand to lie and say she has classes schedule at University of North Carolina - Pembroke and say she has a Friday Classes... We will hand in the evidence that it is a lie and make it known even it there were Friday classes offered - the court order has been in effect 5 years - so why would you schedule a friday class knowing you have to drive to meet DH at 630pm. Another attempt to block the visitation or not have to drive to meet DH at all.

Just sad! But i knew she would pull something once DH let it slip out it was our anniversary and he would follow the court order. I almost wish he had just told her he would follow the court order instead of telling her our personal business that does not affect her at all.

Now she is attempting another pack of lies and attempting to cause stress. Seems like 9 Sept can not get here fast enough. This past year has been trying and troublesome and we are so tired of watch SD be put in the middle of what her mother is doing and trying to accomplish.

Sorry for the long post - but venting it out here will help me to remain cool, calm, and collected when we see her this evening at the school!

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HummingBirdHunny's picture

We are all here to listen to you anytime you need to vent. It sounds like your taking the proper steps to seek justice for all the crap she is pulling. Just remember to stay one step ahead of her and things should backfire on her hard! Good luck tonight and at court next month.