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I had a meeting with 3 of BS11s teachers last Friday. BS11 has been lying to me, DH, his teachers, and the principal for a few weeks now. BS11 has not been doing homework, hasn't been turning in classroom assignments, and talking during class. As a result, he is failing 2 classes and almost a 3rd. During this meeting I found out that BS11s IEP teacher had a talk with BS11 2 days prior. BS11 never mentioned it to DH or I. I asked BS11s teachers if there is anything else that DH & I can do to get BS11 to do his work.
I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years. We have lived together for 2.5 years. My daughter is 11 and his is 10.5. He has joint custody of his daughter and I have full custody of mine though she is with her father every other weekend and ever Wednesday. He father has the freedom to take her extra if he likes.
BM calls last night to make sure we have Atilla covered with Medical Insurance since when she turns five Title 19 drops off. DH told her yes she is on Fadings, since hers was the best between ours. BM asks how this whole thing is going to work. DH and I explain over speaker phone that when she takes Atilla to the Doc, she will pay the copay, then when we get the bill we will split it in half and subtract the copay from her half and that is what she owes. (this is all in the divorce decree) Oooooo Big Momma did not like that!
DH and I have a running disagreement on this, and I'm trying to bring him over to my way of thinking. Here it goes:
Every time SS13 behaves bad or losses something his dad and the SS13 get all work up and its all drama over here.They started SS13 mediction....in a pills form.....so this monday morning his ddad is looking for the pills like crazy asking me if I tiik them from the spot he put them in.......I had to say NO 3 times yet SS13 kept saying he didn't take them, and since his dad didn't take them I was the only other person left to ask.....I was very up set about this 13 year boy losing and misplacing things all the time at our home and his dad asking me if I know where they are.
My SS19 has been living with us for 9 months after his Mum threw him out of her house for being lazy rude and agressive. Whilst he has never been rude and agressive towards me, he is certainly not pulling his weight around the house. His typical day starts at 4pm when he gets up, has a bath and raids the fridge. He will then laze around on the sofa watching tele until 7pm. He then goes out until the early hours before coming home and smoking weed until he falls asleep.
So a few days ago I posted a blog asking for advice. Today I think I just need to vent. I took the advice of others about talking to my MIL. However, she wasn't very responsive to what I had to say and well now she isn't talking to me at all. We used to get a long wonderfully and now she's been stand offish towards me. She told me that she didn't appreciate that my husband and I made the decision to let the kids go see their BM. It wasn't her decision to make so I don't understand why she's mad about us making the decision. It makes it really hard when you live under the same roof as her.
Just got back from a great trip w/ skids and my family! Try as she might, BM was not able to find really any way to mess it up. What a success! The only thing that she did was keep them out of school on Monday so that she could keep them home w/ her for re-programming...after we had carefully pre-planned and scheduled six months in advance the two days that we were having them miss. But DH emailed their teachers to apologize that they didn't return on Monday and explain that it hadn't been his decision.
Last night we go to therapy and I felt like I got ganged up on. Things have been better between us. Turns out things that were in the past not so much anymore. He has issues with me coming in and decorating the house my way. I gave up a home I loved to move in with him. Because his house was one bedroom bigger than mine. I gave up walk-in closet and nicer bathroom. He said I would have carte blanche to decorate how I wanted. Ha! Everytime, I made a decision, I was met with resistance. Lots of fighting. Now the house is almost done and we both have had to get rid of items.
I've posted a great deal and replied to posts about my FH and his relationship with SS10 (his bio son)- whom he's described as "his peer." Always treated him like his partner, taken him to adult parties, SS assumes he should be a part of every conversation, etc. This, combined with the fact that SS has no responsibilities, doesn't even know how to pour a bowl of his cereal, doesn't even carry his backpack from the car- and is emotionally immature- have made for some stress since I moved in with them when we got engaged last fall.
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