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Fading's picture

BM calls last night to make sure we have Atilla covered with Medical Insurance since when she turns five Title 19 drops off. DH told her yes she is on Fadings, since hers was the best between ours. BM asks how this whole thing is going to work. DH and I explain over speaker phone that when she takes Atilla to the Doc, she will pay the copay, then when we get the bill we will split it in half and subtract the copay from her half and that is what she owes. (this is all in the divorce decree) Oooooo Big Momma did not like that! BM goes "Well thats not right because I thought you had to pay the medical bills and cover her. If thats the case we might as well put her on H's so we can split it that way."

*pause a moment for a facepalm*

So this broad thinks that DH is supposed to pay CS, cover Atilla on medical AND PAY ALL MEDICAL BILLS. And that if Atilla was on her H's insurance they would split the bills...*banging head on desk* Lord please don't let me smack this woman back to Mars...

Whoany, BM continues to say that since I make so much we should be able to afford all the medical bills. *throat clearing* Excuse me?

First of all I did NOT pop that child out of >this here< womb. Second, I have no legal RIGHTS to this child so pfft not my problem. Third, DH did NOT impregnate himself and squeeze a watermelon out of his imaginary wachanga. SO BM YOU FRACKIN PAY FOR YOUR, YES YOUR, CHILD. I am sick of this baby mama drama when she doesn't hear what she wants. She is usually really calm, cool and decent. But my land she can be as dumb as a wet carrot. I will NOT pay the entire medical bill and niether will DH. It will go half and if she doesn't pay it or us, we will take the stupidfairy to court. Biggrin

And that shall be that my friends. She shall pay for her idiocy one way or another. Plus I'd looooove to see her make a fool of herself in front of a judge. It'd be thoroughly entertaining. I'll have to remember the popcorn...

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soverysad's picture

Wingnut seems to think that since I have (had - the economy is killing me) a good job and I am a professional that I should support dh so that he can give her more $. She actually told this to a judge. DH can give her his whole pay because his new wife makes enough money for both of them. What the hell is wrong with these people? The judge set her straight pretty quickly with what my financial obligation was to dh, her and sd. NONE!

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

Fading's picture

Its funny how BMs seem to think everyone elses money should cover THEIR financial responsibilities...Wonder if a frozen bagel to the head would set any of them straight....

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"I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work." -Thomas Edison

soverysad's picture

I don't think a shovel to Wingnut's head would help. I remember when dh and I first moved back into the house (while she was moving out). She told him at least a dozen times that she was leaving him the $800 gas grill that she bought with HER Christmas money. Uh - she took everything else out of the house. EVERYTHING. And uh, you haven't worked in 5 years asshole, the toilet paper you use to wipe your ass was bought with dh's money!

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

TCPCAW4E's picture

You know these women are CRAZY!!! My fiance is paying his kids dental and vison not knowing any better, well he was informed that he is only obligated to pay medical. He and the ex-shedevil are going back to court in a few weeks and she is really going to throw a fit because he is no longer paying dental(step son just had braces put on) or vision. I would love to see the reaction on her face when they tell her that.....

Denial's picture

My DH's X (I shall call her Wildebeast) - tried to get more CS from him right after we got married (Dec 2007). We made the mistake of DH and SS meeting me at work for lunch. SS got to see my office, asked what I did - then reported back to BM. For some reason, she thought I needed to help pay for him too - judge set her straight real quick as to my obligations.

This woman is so intelligent, she then filed a petition for more CS right after we found out I was pregnant (Oct 2008). Her rationale, since we had enough money to have a baby, we could assist her more - once again trying to use my income. The funniest thing she said to the judge was "now that my son has a 1/2 brother by this women, the boys are now connected and should be looked at equally" - connected???? WTF?????? I laughed so hard, I thought I was going to piddle - remember, I was pregnant at the hearing:).

The judge even held back a snicker. She hasn't filed to up CS since.

soverysad's picture

That is awesome!

"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!

Bradybunchmom's picture

These BMs need to get their priorities straight. When I divorced my ex I came out of there with what was important. The kids. And I had to fight tooth and nail to get them. I didn't get any of the marital property, none of the kids property, and almost none of my things either. He kept EVERYthing. He does not pay child support, let alone cover them on medical or cover any medical bills. No extras, no school clothes, no food, no sports...I am on my own.

And I am thankful everyday that >I< Have sole and physical custody of my kids, and that is what matters.

unbelieveable's picture

This is really funny, I complain about this all the time (check out my blogs.) My FH pays about $550 a month and he pays for all health insurance. We make nutbag pay copays. But she will send the girls down to tell me "Momma said you need to get us new clothes..." For a while I was down with helping support them but uhh...- where does the money go she gets for them? I could make that money last for 2 months! And in my blog before the last some comments made me really think about this and understand that THEY ARE NOT ME RESPONSIBLITY! Why should I make MYSELF poor for 2 kids that do NOT belong to me and have no respect for their father or myself? WTH!

Rags's picture

You can't fix stupid so don't waste your time trying.

BioDad and SpermGrandMa have extreme difficulty understanding this same issue. When my Son (SS-now17) was 1yo BioDad and SGM filed to get custody from my Wife. As part of that SpermClan toothless drama BioDad was ordered to pay for half of the policy costs to cover SS for health insurance plus half of any uncovered med expenses (copays, deductibles, etc....). SS has been covered under my employer provided policy since he was 1yo.

BioDad has since added three more out-of-wedlock spawn. Everytime his latest wombdonor welps his latest progeny he attempts to get out of CS or paying half of uncovered med expenses on my Son. Each time the judge raises his CS and smacks him on the hand about not paying his share of uncovered med expenses for my Son.

He has yet to pay us a dime for his share of uncovered med expenses (over more than 15yrs).

What he does not realize is that he now not only owes us ~$5K for his share of those expenses but is now liable for penalties and interest on that money. As soon as SS turns 18 I am suing BioDad's worthless ass for principle, interest and penalties.

So, don't try to fix the stupid BM. Roll up the judgement and beat her about the head and shoulders with it liberally and often (figuratively of course).

Best regards,

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)

LotusFlower's picture

LOL...Rags...my DH has that saying (he's very handy)...that the only things he can't fix are broken hard and stupid...its funny, but very true...

A mother is not defined by the "b" or the "s" in front of her name, she is defined by how she handles the "mother" part.....

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oops...broken HEARTS

A mother is not defined by the "b" or the "s" in front of her name, she is defined by how she handles the "mother" part.....

Fading's picture

I reiterate to DH and BM that I don't HAVE to pay for ANYTHING for Atilla. I do it out of the goodness of my heart *insert halo* and because even though I can't stand the child at all, I don't want her to walk around without the things she NEEDS (i.e. winter coat, shoes, etc). But I will NEVER go broke making sure Atilla has EVERYTHING. That is her BIOPARENTS job (not to go broke lol) and DH does pretty good at giving her what she needs (and then some *growl*). But BM spends CS on her new spawn (7 month old son) so SD gets the used and abused items unless DH or I buy it for her. Thank god for DH's sister who I looooove to death because she does A LOT for Atilla as well and she shouldn't because she and her H are having financial issues themselves.

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Emoticon messed up my bunny Sad

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"I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work." -Thomas Edison

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There bunny is better hehehe

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luckykell's picture

Wachanga.....
That's my new favorite word! Smile I was having a really really crappy day at work, and that word right there just made my day! Thanks!

"Live well, Love much, Laugh often."