I'd Like to Buy A Vowel...
Ughhhhhh. Rawwrrrr. Figured I'd start this blog with some animal sounds because I am feeling quite monster-like at the moment. Atilla's birthday is Sunday and her cousins are having their birthday on Saturday (they were born on Feb 5 & 6 2 years apart). So what is DH's FIRST COMMENT? "Why don't we celebrate Atilla's birthday at the same time?" Um...Because your sister is paying for the bowling for HER KIDS birthdays and you just want to take away from them. I can see it now:
Slurpie & Spitty are turning 4 and 2 respectively. Atilla shows up and SHA-BAM it's ALL ABOUT HER. Or otherwise she will cry and cry and cry until everyone is miserable and drowning in her tears, and I would've forgotten the scuba gear.
Now if we tell her its Slurpie & Spitty's birthday party, and we celebrate hers at a later date (like Sunday), then she won't even realize it's the day before her birthday and it will be about Slurpie and Spitty, as it should be. That and I personally don't think Atilla deserves a birthday party, maybe just a gift or two, because of her recent behavior and attitude. (DH had her yesterday whilst I was at work and I come home to juice all over the TV, carpet and entertainment center. Apparently Atilla got mad because DH wouldn't give her a cookie and threw her juice).
Am I overreacting to wanting the cousins have their own birthday party that was planned for them and paid for by THEIR mother? And am I being mean saying Atilla doesn't deserve a party?
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Not at all - I think DH is
Not at all - I think DH is being disrespectful of his sister. Good for you for sticking up for her.
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I agree with you. They
I agree with you. They should have separate parties, especially if his sister is paying for the party, AND didn't bring up the idea of sharing a party. I think DH would be imposing.
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I absolutely think the
I absolutely think the cousins should have a separate party, their OWN party.
Also, I don't believe kids should have these big, huge birthday parties EVERY year. We have made the decision to have quiet family parties with maybe a couple friends who can sleep over. No disco balls, loud music, party hats and games, NO more skating parties, and giant sleepovers.
We will have big parties for the memorable birthdays only (turning 10, turning 13, turning 16, etc....)
We made this decision partially because it COSTS SO MUCH!!! And also, we have separate parties from the BM and last year she expected US to pay for her birthday parties at the skating rink for the skids.
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"Am I overreacting to
"Am I overreacting to wanting the cousins have their own birthday party that was planned for them and paid for by THEIR mother?"
Nope. They deserve their own party to recognize their birthday, and I doubt mom would be too happy about trying to combine it for Attila. I know I wouldn't be happy about it at all.
"And am I being mean saying Atilla doesn't deserve a party?"
Mean, no. Not to SAY she doesn't deserve it. It probably would be a little mean to not give her one tho. Kids parties are more for the parents than they are the kids, ya know what I mean? SHE might not deserve the party, but your DH deserves to give his daughter a party. Does that make sense?
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i think that taking away a
i think that taking away a child's birthday PARTY is wrong. same with holidays. i think a more appropriate punishment would be not to get her gifts, let her know that because of her behavior she can have a party but no gifts from u or dh.
u are right, the cousins should have their own party and your sd should have one seperate.
I agree with this.
I agree with this. Canceling a bday or a holiday isn't something you can "re-do". SD's behavior last year was SOOO bad that I would have canceled Christmas, but even I (in all my meanness) realized that was unreasonable, but when SD complained that Santa left more gifts at mommy's, I let her know that Santa wasn't too happy about the way she behaved while I was in the hospital and that he brought less gifts because of it.
On another note I would be totally pissed if I was having a party for my kids, did all the planning, and paid for it and someone else decided to celebrate their kid's bday too.
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If it was a PLANNED joint
If it was a PLANNED joint Bday party that is one thing. But for DH to try to impose that on his sister is just wrong, IMHO.