Saturday night we picked up Atilla for her overnight. We went to Walmart to pick up a few groceries. As soon as we pull into the parking lot, Atilla's first words are: Daddy I want a toy. He told her no. *applause* So we go in and she sits in the cart and as we are going through the aisles picking up the few things we needed she continues to ask "can I get a toy now" and we both repeatedly told her no. As we are leaving she asks AGAIN and AGAIN we say no, she threw a fit, and started pulling all the magazines off the rack at the check out, so I moved the cart so she couldn't reach them and put the ones she had thrown back on the rack. Atilla then begins to bang her head on the cart screaming "Don't hurt me" "Stop it", so I finished checking out while DH hauled her outside to the car. When I got there she was bawling and DH was really really mad. When she wouldn't stop screaming DH stopped the car on the side of the highway and turned to SD and yelled "If you DO NOT stop I am taking you home and you WILL NOT get anything at all for your birthday." She stopped. For the time being. When we got home she went on to play with her toys whilst DH and I put away groceries. DH was tired as he had worked a 12 hour shift and was running on about 3 hours of sleep so I told him to go ahead to bed and I would get Atilla into bed. It was only 7:30 so I let Atilla continue to play. As soon as she saw DH go into our room and close the door she began to reak havoc. She took ALL of her learning flash cards and threw them all over the room then told me to pick them up, I told her no she made the mess she will pick it up. She laughed and told me I was a lazy mom and that she will just have daddy do it later. I made her pick them up even though she was crying the whole time telling me I was mean and evil. I've noticed a trend with Atilla that she only acts up real bad when DH isn't around. So I grabbed the video camera and set it up. Throughout the night she would curse at me when I told her no (no chocolate before bed, no pop, etc). She threw her stuffed bear at me when I told her she had to brush her teeth. She broke her play phone when I wouldn't turn up the sound on it. All of this went on and on. Finally at 8:30 I told her it was time for bed and she told me that I should just leave because she wasn't sleepy. We went round and round for about 10 minutes. I finally picked her up and laid her down and as I was pulling up her covers she kicked me hard, straight in the ribcage and then laughed. I told her I was getting daddy. I hated to wake up DH but I had had it. DH came in and Atilla of course was crying, saying I was mean to her. And I just smiled and said oh really? I got the video camera and showed DH exactly what had gone on the last few hours. He was PISSED. He hauled all of SDs toys into the other room and started throwing some away. Told her he was done with her attitude towards me and she wasn't getting anything for a long time. DH took away her video game, unplugged her tv and wound the cord so she couldn't get it, and took away her DVD player and radio. He put her to bed, told her to be quiet and go to sleep. When she begged for him to stay with her, he said no, she was too naughty. He closed the door and we went to bed. We made breakfast, she didn't want what we made, so DH told her then she goes hungry, so she opted to eat a little. When it was time for her to go home, I picked up her overnight bag and realized it was heavier than it should be. I opened it up to find several DVDs not even any of her DVDs, OUR DVDS. I took them out and showed DH. He was furious, he whisked her off and took her home while I attempted to put away the DVDs (we have them in alphabetical order according to genre, I know dorky). DH wasn't even back through the door when BM called. Atilla had apparently went straight to her room and wouldn't come out. When she finally did, BM said SD's hamster Ozzie was missing. SD says she threw him out the window because she didn't want him anymore. BM took away all of SDs things. EVERYTHING. TV, toys, stuffed animals, etc. And SD was only allowed 2 sets of clothes to wear and BM said that she would wash one while SD wore the other etc. Atilla is really getting to be a pain. Both mentally and physically.

I have started thinking about how it WAS in the beginning. DH and I were head over heels for each other, the first year was amazing. That year, we only had Atilla on Sundays for 5 hours. As time went by and we started having Atilla more and more, our relationship got worse and worse. We still have a loving relationship but it feels like it has slowly cracked, and I'm afraid of it fully breaking. Not that I should blame Atilla for DH and I growing apart, but she does have a big part in it. She has made me the villan in my own home. DH was watching 17 Again last night and was bawling at the end, why? Because he felt like we were heading down that path and he admitted that its largely because of Atilla's constant attitude and bad behavior. He asked me if I thought some kids are just born bad. I told him I thought it was possible but that we need to keep our strict discipline and maybe she will change. DH admitted that he is sick of Atilla being the way she is and is going to talk to BM about getting her to a psychologist, because he feels something isn't right.

I just hope she grows out of this. I am beginning to feel like I have a demon for a skid.