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Yeahhh.....Not Touching That With a 10 ft. Pole

caya506's picture

After weeks of flipping back and forth between a raging psycho and whispering sweet nothings via text, attempting to get my BF to go back to her, BM sends my BF this text, "i always thought you and her were good together. tell her I said congratulations". BF started to reply to it when I said PUT THE PHONE DOWN AND STEP AWAY! lol. That comment is a disaster waiting to happen.

Father's Day - ARGH!!

kit2kat00's picture

I'd like to get some advice/thoughts from all of you out there. I'm getting married to a man in 2 1/2 weeks. We've been dating for 7 years and living together for 3. We share the house with my 9 yr old daughter. He has a 19 yr old attending college who lives with her mom. My daughter hasn't seen her father (his choice) in about 1 1/2 years. Last year on Father's Day, my BF spent the entire day at an amusement park with his daughter and mine spent it with me. I felt really bad for her so I asked BF if, from now on, he could include her in Father's Day activities and he agreed.

Anyone know of any?

stormabruin's picture

I read the book, "Divorce Poison", & found it very helpful...not so much in solving the PAS problems in our situation, as I believe skids have fallen much too deep into it for any resolve to be possible right now. I think the only hope we have will come as they grow & experience life themselves.

I have been wanting to find a book, maybe about adults who were victims of PAS as children, where maybe it would discuss them realizing that they were PAS'd, & how they came to realize it.

I feel good....Na na na na na Na

SecondBest09's picture

I got a new attitude....

and several other happy little songs. Rather than continuing to fuss at BF for not taking matters into his own hands with BM, or waiting on BM to do what she needs to do, I've decided to change my approach. I will calmly, quietly, and respectfully make my requests of him, give him a reasonable amount of time to deal with it with BM, and then if he doesn't, I will do so myself. (I'm referring to boundary and respect matters, not matters with the kids.) And I made my first step this morning.

Today, I just want to finally respond to BM!

Princess's picture

After the text I got last night from BM saying "One way or another i will get rid of u" I'm just fed up. I know I should take the high road, and I'm sure it drives her crazy that after 50+ texts I've never once responded, and her 10+ restricted calls a day I've never answered. I'll show you some of the texts:
"I have put up with this bullshit long enough, its over.."
"U will regret the day you went after him.. u dont know me im real easy going til i have had enough and guess what im there so be careful"

And the Worst Mother of the Year award goes to...

Last-Wife's picture

Loca Grande! That woman is so unbelievable! I am sorry my skids have to call her mom...

To update- on Mother's Day weekend, the skids were at her house. Princess 18, being the only girl, has her own room, and was doing some cleaning. She found a stash of pot under her bed. Knowing it wasn't hers, she confronted her mother. Loca Grande denied to at first, but finally fessed up that, yea, when she's thinking about how sh$&&y her life has become, she sits in Princess's room and smokes pot... Nice.

What's the priority -- one more thing...

AlexandraL's picture

I don't think "putting your marriage first" means dismissing children's needs...99.9% of the parents consider how a decision will affect their children, whether SKs or bios?

I wasn't suggesting that the kids shouldn't be a factor in the decision making process...I feel they should but there's going to be resentment when a child becomes THE factor and that decisions will be made based on how it affects that child. I feel the kids should be a consideration but not THE deciding factor.

21 year old hell

JanetinAZ's picture

}:)

I have been with my fiance for over two years. He has four children in an unconventional way.
Son #1 was adopted by Fiance from ex druggie gf 21 years ago when child was 3 months old. Childs BD was also a druggie and is no where to be found.
Son #2 is fiance step son. His wife's son from a previous marriage. She died unexpectedly 4 years ago.
Son #3 is finace bio child from him and wife that died.
Nephew who is 30 from his sister and brother in law.

Son #1 is 21, son #2 is 18, and son #3 is 12, nephew is 30

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