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When are they responsible

3xmom's picture

So just to get ideas here when do we consider the kids to be old enough to accept responsibility for their actions and behaviors and stop blaming it on the fact that they come from a 'broken' home. They are old enough to drive by themselves in most states at 16, they are old enough to vote for our president at 18...I honestly don't know anyone who had the perfect childhood with the perfect "leave it to beaver" parents who never yelled, lost their temper or always parented 'correctly'. So at what age do these kids become responsible for their choices to act the way they do...

12 arguments about the same thing?

balancingact's picture

My husband and I have just had the same argument again.... It's about him planning his "man trips" when SD is home. I think two weekends out of each month should plenty of time away with the boys. Stay home when SD is here. I feel terrible. I do not dislike my SD, but we are not close. And I don't want to babysit!!!! She is 12. Not old enough in my book to stay at home alone. He gets so mad because I want him here when she is here. Spend time with her, or make a dad and daughter trip! I think it would be the greatest and have suggested it several times.

cant wait till SD no longer wants to visit

CaptainD's picture

so yesterday I was becoming very annoyed with my SD13... she wasnt doing anything that bad, but I was getting tired of her NEVER washing her hands before she opened the fridge/got into the cookies, etc. I have to tell her every single time. DO NOT tell me that "is what 13 year olds do" BULLSHIT are you telling me her memory does not work? anyway....not the point.

I Told SO I Am Not Interested In Meeting His Adult Kids Right Now

iloveit's picture

So this weekend my SO mentioned something about wishing SD's would just meet me and get it over with but I was silent. I told him that I needed to be honest with him about that. I said if SD's wanted to meet me in the near future...I am no longer open to it. I told him that I had given this a lot of thought and after almsot 2 years of their non-acknowledgement and immature/disrespectful behavior I wasn't sure it was best for ME anymore. He was quiet and then he said well that just keeps me in the middle of both of these worlds.

What would you do - drug addicted SS21 just texted me

karenemoy's picture

SS21 just sent me a text message asking me how I am doing. I am shaking. In addition to being a drug addict - SS21 just got out of rehab (again) and living in sober living facility in another state. He also is bi-polar. I feel bad but he just tells lies. I cant deal with him.

I am afraid he is reaching out to me because he wants something.

But I feel as if I dont respond he will do something and it will be my fault.

Do I just ignore him?

I really cannot deal with him - I am have SO much anger.

What would you do - drug addicted SS21 just texted me

karenemoy's picture

SS21 just sent me a text message asking me how I am doing. I am shaking. In addition to being a drug addict - SS21 just got out of rehab (again) and living in sober living facility in another state. He also is bi-polar. I feel bad but he just tells lies. I cant deal with him.

I am afraid he is reaching out to me because he wants something.

But I feel as if I dont respond he will do something and it will be my fault.

Do I just ignore him?

I really cannot deal with him - I am have SO much anger.

screaming BM --- what the hell do ya do???

cenrok's picture

Saturday morning we were getting ready to head out of town just the two of us for an overnight get away. I heard SD10 telling BM that she was staying with a sitter over night. Next thing I hear DH outside on his cell phone, BM was screaming so loud I could hear her inside the house. BM lives two states away, and has SD only during the summer. She accused us of never doing "anything" with SD. 3 weekends ago, we took SD snowmobiling, had a bonfire & roasted hot dogs.

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