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If anybody knows me, they know my story. 4 skids (SD18, SS20, SS23, SD24) -- it just never gets better. Thankfully they have all moved out of the house, but I still have to deal with them periodically because of weddings, baby, birthdays, etc. I already posted tonight that my SD18 wants to come for a visit, and I told DH no -- I do not want her here, at all.
My husband currently has primary sole physical custody of my ss. We live in Tx and the bm lives in nm. My ss has lived with us for over 3years, two of those in tx. Tx is considered my ss home state. The current custody papers are out of nm. We will be going to court next month to transfer jurisdiction from nm to tx. Myquestion is once the nm judge transfers jurisdiction to tx, does that make the nm custody papers null and void at that point ?
For some crazy reason people put up blogs and they will tell you they are a Mule and what you find out later is that they are really a donkey. When you point out this mistruth they will get "butt hurt" and cry that they did not lie and it is you who are bad. They bed for advice for a situation and when you give it they say well that advice won't work because the situation is not what I said it was BUT I didn't lie. They obviously do not know the definition of lying.
I last blogged about BM kicking out SD17 and SS(now)16 from her mothers home. BM told both kids that she did not give a shit about them and if they did not leave that same day she was kicking them out, she was going to drop them off at the police station or at foster care. Skids are now both back. SD17 going on 18 this September has been on her best behavior. No disrespect, no attitude or back talk. I told her the true test would be once she went back to school. SS is being SS.
I used to think BM was a control freak, but now I sort of think I was one too.
This past Saturday I was out with my girlfriends at a nice hotel - laying out and about to visit the spa. DH calls and asks if SD9 can have a lizard (they were at the pet store) and I said "Hell No!" These type of pets give me the creeps (if that's your thing, go for it, just not for me) and the one dog we have is plenty.
So, SD9 calls BM and she says 'OF COURSE, you can have the lizard at MY house'. What.Ev.Er
Gosh what a mess. Ok so BM2 has bed bugs again. the last time she had bed bugs DH paid to get her mobile home heated re-carpeted and refurnished and to get all of her and SS10's clothes dry cleaned and sealed. All of that came out of our pockets which is the first annoying thing but we had to so that SS10 could have a place to sleep because they live in another state. So now the bed bugs have returned. SS10 was suppose to catch a plane home on Friday. But BM says he can't go home because of the bed bugs.
FDH and I had a pretty heated discussion last week. I contemplate going to stay with my folks, basically let the house and all of the debt go, and put my life back together for myself and the Bios. The stress over these last two years has been so heavy and I'm so drained. So he says he just has to believe in his heart that things will not always be like this and he has to believe we will be able to have our wedding and start our life...which at this point is just a nice thought. I finally said the one thing I never had:
Oops. After reading over the favorite names and sayings on this site I answered a call from DH asking if I was ok with SD15 coming over again this weekend. I blurted out "I guess the Kraken doesn't need a babysitter for this weekend". Lucky for me then DH started with "Release the Kraken!!" and we giggled.
Thankful that we both have a good sense of humor!
1. DH exists.
2. We (stepmoms) exist.
3. The legal system does not revolve around her.
4. The world does not revolve around her.
5. "Her" child has fun, any kind of fun without her.
6. Do not engage her, or communicate with her on "her" terms.
7. Stick to the CO.
8. Take a vacation with your wife and family...ever.
9. Buy something, anything with your wife(house, furniture, car, pet), without BM's consent or consultation.
10. Procreate with "her" husband (obviously her ex-husband but some CAN'T seem to let go).
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