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Seeking Advice on Reworking Parenting Plan

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Submitted by MightyAphrodite on Fri, 06/20/2025 - 10:51am

I'd love some advice about reworking a parenting plan. I need to give a little background so bear with me: My SO's parenting plan was created in July of 2024 and needs to be changed due to a couple reasons. In the parenting plan, the EX is listed as the primary parent, my SO pays child and spousal support, and the childcare split was set as temporary until the EXs weird hour work schedule was due to change this Fall 2025 where it was then going to change to 50/50 childcare split.

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1 year in - Is Second Guessing Normal?

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Submitted by MightyAphrodite on Fri, 06/20/2025 - 10:50am

I want to hear from steps who've been in it 10+ years - is second guessing decision to be a step mom in the begining normal? This is a huge thing to take on and I feel it. I admit that I also did too much in the beginning so am a little worn out because I'm an overgiver and a fixer. It's beautiful in so many ways but also so difficult (and the BM doesn't make it easy at all). I am looking for some raw advice or some reassurance that this is going to be worth it. That the happiness and calm will come with time. I'm only about 1 year in of parenting SS6 and SS8 5 days/week.

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2 SS & toxic as hell BM - seeking advice

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Submitted by MightyAphrodite on Tue, 06/17/2025 - 8:21pm

I moved in with my BF and 2 SS (6 1/2 and 8 1/2) in December 2024. Have the SS 5 days per week - and much prefer it that way, even though it's hard at times I wish they were with us full time. The BM has borderline personality disoder and what seems to be narcissism mixed with a healthy dose of victimism. I found out that there is mental illness on the BM's side - an example is that one of her brother's just got sentenced to prison for life for rapng a woman.

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