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BM has been silent about SS13's therapy since she sent the initial email a few months ago, simply telling DH she was enrolling SS in therapy for "anxious thoughts" and providing the therapist name/phone number, along with the insane out of pocket price, because this therapist is private pay only. DH responded that he was in disagreement with using a private pay therapist.
I've managed to avoid being in the same space as BM for about 8 years, but I broke my streak this weekend. OSD had a sorority event that she invited XH, DD, and me to. I should have asked, but I just assumed BM wasn't coming because in the past OSD has always given me a warning and BM also hasn't been super involved in anything to do with SDs' University. I don't know if BM decided to come at the last second or what, but she was one of the first people we saw when we walked into the venue.
My stepdaughter is 7 almost 8, and since the beginning I’ve realized that she is a people pleaser to please her mom. Biomom is a nightmare. She is the epitome of toxic and narcissistic. Wretched is the word that comes to mind. At the beginning of my relationship with SO she would scream obscenities at me from her car during pick up and drop off of my stepdaughter. The first nine months of our relationship were that way until finally I guess she realized the only way I would communicate or engage with her is if there was some civility.
BM worked hard to create mutual dependence between/among herself and the skids. The enmeshment with SD in particular has been like nothing I've seen. For years, I likened "BM's world" to a cocoon inhabited by the three of them. SS was at times an outlier, but it appears that he, now in his late 30s, has fully entered the fold. Like he's going backwards.
The saga that began with me entering into a relationship with a man who has a horrific ex, a custody battle which went in his favor, and learning his daughter was subjected to horrific emotional/psychological abuse by that woman......all may be coming to a very interesting end....which means it will be the beginning of something new and challenging indeed.
A little follow up on the upcoming court appearance.. DH has tried to get in contact with BM, who lives in a different state, to go over the court summons MIL sent with her delusional statements. BM claimed she just got it today then followed up through texts that she just doesn't want to deal with our family drama... I mean it includes her son but I guess she feels like that's not her problem. Unfortunately for BM (and us because she's useless), she has to be included as a noncustodial parent regardless of her lack of motivation.
Why do we, or why does anyone, tolerate stench? Whether it is an actual odor, or a speculative odor, if it stinks, pinch your nose, find, and eliminate the source.
Certainly there is some element of the level of pleasantness of a smell is in the nose of the smell-er. However, some things are unquestionably noxious odoriferous emanations. Noxious people, noxious behaviors, noxious attitudes, etc, etc, etc.
Why keep "smelling" them?
That is the question.
I had my baby. Sweet baby girl, she is now 3 weeks old.
SD came back last fortnight and met her and had a cuddle. I found the whole thing awkward.
I got zero apology and she spoke to me like the last 3 months didn't happen where she threw a royal tantrum and refused to come back to our house and BM sent a bullying and manipulative email about me.
It was BS birthday party last weekend. He was turning 4. DH's parents traveled about 5/6 hours to come to his birthday party on Saturday. DH let SD14 know ahead of time that family was coming to visit. Her response was "Well, I was planning on going to my Mom's." DH proceeded to explain how far they are traveling, haven't seen them in a year, etc. SD14 eventually folded and she stayed at our house last weekend instead of going to BMs.
Friday night rolls around and SD14 had a decent conversation with the grandparents for about 30 minutes.
I enjoyed Michelle Obama’s response to divorce rumors. She didn’t attend Jimmy Carter’s funeral or Trump’s 2nd inauguration with her husband and so the rumor mill jumped to the conclusion that they are getting a divorce.
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