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Christmas is over

I'm sad to see so many of you had a stressful Christmas.

My DH is in the military and eligible to retire with a pension. When he retires he can get a new job and make a salary on top of that pension. Most people we know who are doing this are making really good money now.

However just recently he is pretty much told me that he is not getting out of the military until SD turns 18. He sees it as he has a guaranteed paycheck, health insurance and life insurance which is all required in the CO.

Update (he won't)

I usually try to make my blog entry standalone so you have the information whether you read my previous ones or not. But this time things are quite related to the previous info and if you want I would refresh yourself by looking at the previous one "will he or won't he?" and "BM and a funeral." Because things have taken an interesting turn.

MeddlesomeSIL hung out with SD15 all this weekend but kept her to herself and didn't visit any of DH's other family members. However she did hang out with the family friend who is a widow now and loves BM (see the funeral blog).

Will he or won't he?

Same s#it different month. I refuse to even indulge my DH in talking about this so I'll just vent to you all!

SD15 and BM won't answer DHs messages or calls so he can't arrange a time to see SD15 over the holidays. DH has even sent SD15 some gifts to try to get her to say anything, even that doesn't work anymore.

When BM messages DH asking for money or paperwork he always responds but as soon as he asks to actually see SD15 it's silence. Could he legally do something about this? Yep. Will he? Nope.

Nothing unexpected

I would be content to only interact with SD15 for her birthday and Christmas. I feel like those are the polite bare minimums for family.

But the last few times I have brought up SD DH has not wanted to talk about her at all. I'm not sure what has happened other than her ignoring him and maybe he's moved to a new phase of accepting it. She didn't reply to him on Thanksgiving, but waited until the Saturday after at 11pm. DH usually tells me all about their interaction, this time he just said "we texted."

What really happened when they turned 18?

Or older for your poor souls that were on the hook for CS until the "child" is 23.

What really happened when they turned 18?

My DH and I are daring to start to get excited about CS ending. We'll have a vacation fund! He can put money towards our kids college! Home renovation! Investments! $1200 extra a month!!! I could buy a boat!

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"Guest" room

We have a 3 BR house. When we moved in SD got a room but it was never really decorated. We tried to get her to pick stuff out but she wasn't interested. I figured if DH wanted it set up he could spend the money to do it. It became the SD/Guest room.

BM and a funeral

I haven't posted much because there isn't much to say when things go well. There as been a few visits with SD and DHs family that were brief and our boundaries were respected. No drama. Good news.

A friend of DHs family died suddenly, one of his sisters called him to tell him and said she had "already reached out to BM." Ugh.

SDs chaperone is at it again

SD15 starts school this week so BM allowed DH to get her for the back-to-school-shopathon for clothes and shoes. This is an annoying yet expected experience every year

My meddlesome SIL tagged along for the shopping spree because of course. DH was on the way to pick up SD15 and SIL informed him she got her already. We had no idea SIL even knew DH was getting SD.

SIL makes it too many people to fit in one car so she and SD drive separately. God forbid DH and our family would get any time with SD without SILs supervision.

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Dysfunctional in-laws

Jcksjj's last post about her insane in laws gave me a revelation about mine.

My in laws are all quick to say DH is a bad dad because he doesn't see SD or them much and that I'm controlling him. The reality is SD is spoiled and PASed by BM and my in laws are always drama.

My in laws will dogpile on DH to tell him what he's doing wrong and what they think he should be doing, of course they don't have the full story and think he's neglecting SD. One of my SILs favorite things to get at DH is to tell him "You're just like FIL."