SD15 won't talk to DH, what else is new. For a few months now he's been saying that she only talks to him when she wants something. I think SD has reached dead to him status because he doesn't even mention her anymore and he's stopped telling our kids about their older sister. Lately when he talks about our kids it seems like they are the only ones he has, like he refers to them as the first and second instead of second and third.

I'm all in my feels today because I've got a lot of stress with work and my DH is in one of his mopey moods.

How do I get over the fact that my DH is hurt by SD15 wanting nothing to do with us?

Does anyone else experience the delay?

My SD15 does manage to be quite polite and pleasant most of the time. But like clockwork about 2 days to a week after DH has seen her or a holiday he will get passive aggressive or straight up aggressive messages from BM, or pouty messages from SD.

SD ignored DH from Christmas until New Year's and then managed to send him a small reply the evening of January 1st. Of course it included the standard "I'm busy" but she is constantly on her phone and posting selfies.

My DH is in the military and eligible to retire with a pension. When he retires he can get a new job and make a salary on top of that pension. Most people we know who are doing this are making really good money now.

However just recently he is pretty much told me that he is not getting out of the military until SD turns 18. He sees it as he has a guaranteed paycheck, health insurance and life insurance which is all required in the CO.