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Update on my DHs family

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Thu, 02/10/2022 - 9:38am

Spanish SIL(DHs half sister) got married. My MIL, FIL and their two other kids (SILs) went for the wedding. We found out about it on Spanish sil's new husband's Instagram, not even Facebook. The whole thing was very hush hush and I don't think they even wanted DH to find out about it. It's so weird he is clearly the black sheep of their family now. He is quite sad about it but in the next breath he will say that I am his family now and he doesn't need them. Still it is pretty sad when your family of origin wants nothing to do with you.

Why can't they say no?

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Mon, 01/31/2022 - 1:58pm

Why can't these guys say no to BM or the Skids? They sure can say no to us! If it's guilt then why don't they feel guilt for bringing us into the dysfunction? 

Is it really as simple as guilt and fear? And if it is why the hell can't they get past it after YEARS? And if they're afraid of BM witholding the skids or turning them against them, do they mean more than the current level? Do the BMs and skids ever actually play nice when they get their demands met or do they just make more demands?

 

SD14s stepdad has covid

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Sat, 01/01/2022 - 10:06am

Which means everyone in the house has covid. BM told DH trying to get sympathy. BM and the lot are all anti-vax. Sorry but I have no sympathy for antivaxers that get covid and then whine about it. DH has little sympathy but he's worried about SD and it's distracting him. Of course SD is not talking to him and all the updates about her sore throat and sniffles are coming from BM.

Might see SD14 for Christmas for the first time ever, of course I'm suspicious

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Tue, 12/07/2021 - 2:27pm

My middleSIL(Formerly the nice one until she played a cruel prank on SD) was texting me about gifts for our kids, and then she not so subtly let it slip that meddlesome SIL was getting SD14 for Christmas. 

In all the years I've known DH he has NEVER seen SD for Christmas, he's lucky if she'll see him before new years, oftentimes we do Christmas with her on MLK weekend and one year she didn't get her Christmas gift until around Easter! He's also never seen his family on Christmas Eve or day, he's an adult and he just doesn't care all that much to see them.

DH complains about entitlement but then feeds into it

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Mon, 12/06/2021 - 2:57pm

SD14 won't give DH a Christmas list (or talk to him at all for that matter) however we'll still send Christmas gifts. 

DH shot down every idea I had.

What about some books? - I don't know what kind she is into or what she doesn't have already. 

SD is into witchcraft maybe we should get her some witchy books or crystals or something. - I'm fine with her being into that kind of stuff but I don't think BM is and I don't want any of that sent to the house where being can see it and say we're satanic.

Auntie Stepmom

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Submitted by SeeYouNever on Mon, 11/22/2021 - 11:05am

I have a friend who is a childfree stepmom with a 19 year old SD (she met her at about 13). She works with children for a living. Her husband is in his late 40s and she's in her 30s. The BM is a piece of work, she and SD are American citizens but ran off to another country instead of divorcing and the custody battle was brutal. SD is now going to college in the US (where her dad lives).

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