Does anyone else experience the delay?
My SD15 does manage to be quite polite and pleasant most of the time. But like clockwork about 2 days to a week after DH has seen her or a holiday he will get passive aggressive or straight up aggressive messages from BM, or pouty messages from SD.
SD ignored DH from Christmas until New Year's and then managed to send him a small reply the evening of January 1st. Of course it included the standard "I'm busy" but she is constantly on her phone and posting selfies.
This year's delay was a complaint from BM that all DH got SD was $100 Amazon gift card. He had asked SD for her Christmas list and she never gave it to him. She never even responded. She hung out with meddlesome SIL a few weeks ago but wouldn't agree to see DH. We currently have no idea when we're going to see her again.
In the past the delay has come in the form of BM berating DH for not spending enough money on SD, not taking her to the restaurant she likes, not appreciating her enough (whatever that means), not letting her spend enough time with my meddlesomeSIL, not taking her on a vacation (without me and our kids), buying her the wrong brand of shoes or clothing, not keeping her room a shrine even though she sleeps ther maybe twice a YEAR... Or complaining that he won't go half's with BM to buys expensive electronics. All sorts of things that BM wanted to control and she always seems to slip in some comparison with me. Like when I got a new car and SD was at our house to check it out BM asks DH for thousands of dollars for a summer program for SD and then yelled at him for not immediately giving it to her because he had enough money to buy "his woman" a new car. SD didn't seem to care about this stuff when we had her. Even a weekend that goes smoothly usually has some sort of delayed problem that my DH hears about.
For everyone that experiences "the delay" I'm sure you've heard all about what you did wrong over the holidays!