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I miss you, my StepTalk friends! So much has happened these past few months and I have barely had time to come up for air. I've been dying to update you, but it seems that once I get a moment to myself, all I want to do is sleep! What can I say? I have a 6-week-old baby who keeps me up all night and a 2-year-old who keeps me busy all day! Not to mention I just started a new job, albeit part-time, because I lost my old one when I was 9 months pregnant!
Need help on how to deal with insurance and BM. I just had my first child last week. (Everything is fine and she is beautiful) As of right now we met our deductible for family by all the DR. appts, tests, and delivery. Out of pocket we probably are going to have to pay over $1000. Step son just went in yesterday for surgery on his throat. Now all SS's medical bills will be paid since WE or I met the deductible. His mother will not have to fork over a dime. If it wasn't for us already paying out of our pocket for this baby she would be paying half a deductible.
If you knew that BM/BF was currently physically abusing other children, would you send you step-child to visit? and what would you do?
So I have quit having any communication with bio mom. My husband hates dealing with it. The other night she called, and was talking about me like she always does, expecting me to grab the phone and cuss her out, like I use to do. Instead I sat there and kept my composure on the whole situation. She told my husband that if he would talk to her like an adult, she would stop on her end with all the drama. So he listened and not once said anything bad, but yet played into her little world that she wanted.
I used to let a lot of the drama with BM and skids in and now I am kind of distanced from it. A few years of dealing with it, a couple books, and this site, and things seem fairly in hand. I suppose it helps that I took an interest in DV adcocacy and took a job assistant a family lawyer. I now see the most horrific, horrendous examples of what can happen in a divorce on a regular basis. Interestingly, I don't really take my work home much, but it definitely gives me perspective on what is going on with my own situation.
So, mentioned last week we were going to a concert. 7th row seats to the "All American Rejects" they were playing at our county fair. Well... DH and I were having a great time before the concert started... went into the ampatheater... walked up to our seats a little before the opening act started. Turned to hang my sweatshirt on the back of my chair and guess who waves at me.... YOU GUESSED IT... BM... sitting about 5 rows directly behind us. Real nice. So I told DH, "that's nice, there's your ex, waving at us"... GREAT.
Ah!
My house is clean in every corner, my kids got all the classes they want and even have teachers they adore, my mom took me out to lunch, and my stress level is back to normal. So, so nice.
I just want to curl up in a big blanket and watch comedies all night.
But...tonight is open house at the middle school.
I am thinking of playing hooky. lol.
My BF had his daughter over the weekend, he has her every weekend except for second of the month. I feel like I fill in the cracks for him. What I mean is I just feel like I fill in the cracks when she's not around. I never know for sure what is going on...I sit around and wait to see if he is going to ahve her or not. Such as this weekend, he didn't know until Sunday night whether he was going to have her on Monday. We've talked about this before, and he said he knows how I feel that he would talk to BM and find out plans ahead of time, so I know what I'm doing!
So bio mom still hates me, after 4 years of being with my husband. In my last post I told you how she got mad and went to get a restraining order becuase I told her she needed to put her 5 year old son on a diet and quit giving him cheetos and coke as a snack. Now last night she tells my husband if he can tlak to her like an adult she will start being an adult. They had a nice conversations and even though half of it was her bad mouthing me, I bit my tongue and said nothing.
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