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When I stepped into this chat room I had no idea what I was getting into, but I am definately glad I did. There is so much support that I know has helped me through a few tough times. I wish I would have found it sooner. I consider myself a strong person. Opinionated, tough and rough, but nothing has ever prepared my for the roll of stepmotherhood. I wanted to put my story out there cause I'm sure some of you are going WHAT?, WHO IS THIS? So here it goes. My DH and I dated since Oct. 2004 married since Feb. 2006. I was married before for 8 yrs to a turd whom I didn't love.
I don't pretend for a second that there is anything unique, special, categorical, etc. about my little tale of woe. I also don't imagine that, living in my beautiful two story house and driving my SUV, that I have it half as bad as say... a blind beggar in Bagdad.
BUT... for those of you out there who have survived the emotional upheaval and constant stress of living with ill-behaved, foul-tempered skids -- you will understand when I say, "The pain is REAL. The sense of grief is PROFOUND. The loss of control is OVERWHELMING. The dread of sitting down to dinner is POWERFUL."
I think that is what I am realising is happening.
I never expected my mild mannered DH would be like this. But, 2 years after meeting, we only moved in together 6 months ago. I have been blaming mainly SD16 for all the black looks and outbursts, but it is now obvious to me that the fault lies at my DH's feet.
I knew this would happen. DH is supposed to meet with BM and her lawyer this afternoon to try and work out arrangements for her to sign over custody. She just called DH to say "Oh, BTW, I'm not paying CS." DH told her of course she would pay CS. She can't just waltz out of here like she never had a child. Why do women think that it is necessary for a father to pay but when it comes to them, the rules have changed. She actually told him that he had to pay all these years because SD was "HIS CHILD". Well, duh, isn't she YOUR CHILD TOO????
Have just changed my user name etc because my DH has been checking up on me & it makes me feel spied on. I have told him I really need this site for my sanity, so hopefully, he'll leave me to it!
Okay so me and DH have been struggling, due to the kids, MIL, and finances. After several months of just feeling empty inside and trying to think about what is right, what is wrong,, me and my BD's left the home for a few days...
I posted before about DH wanting oldest SD 7 to have own room in new house (even though I'm pregnant and she is only with us 3 nigts a week). I wnated her and other SD 2 to share bigger bedroom and save smaller room for Nursery. It was a huge fight but eventually he came around to my side. ( I basically told him if he was giving that room to SD the baby and I weren't moving in with them).
We got the kids on friday and they smelled like an ashtray!!! After talking to them in car on the way home we found out that BM's water heater went out or something because they didn't take a bath since the last time we had them- 16 days ago!!!!! I couldn't believe what I heard. Frankly, it made me want to cry. We asked them why BM didn't get it fixed and they said that "mom doesn't have the money" I thought to myself "she doesn't need money to do it, she just needs to call her landlord". I talked to DH and he said the same thing as I thought.
I am a mother of 2 girls & sm of 4..
Something came to my attention this weekend & really opened my eyes. Since I've been griping so much, I wanted to share. Let me tell you what happened....
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