Hey everyone, so today is day 3 of my stepkids 5 days at our house and I really feel today more than ever not 100% comfortable in my own home. I'm not on top form because my husband and I are still strained after the arguments from last week's issues so I'm just kinda letting him deal with the kids and I'm observing him and slowly realising that the kids are the way they are because of him - he basically lets them do whatever they want until he knows it's really getting to me and then he'll make a half ditched attempt at putting it right.

I wanted to hear your opinion on this. Would you ever want to have peace w/biomom and carry out a civilized relationship? A relationship where you can talk comfortably without thinking in the back of your mind that she is up to something evil. Or is this impossible? Is it just in nature that new wife & exwife just do not get along?

Boyfriend's daugther comes over for the first time in a long time the Friday of Mother's Day weekend. She was on her way to a school function, but it was sold out so her mom dropped her off at our house to spend the night (again, no advanced notice)but we were home and it was fine. She made it clear that she had nothing else to do and spent the whole time with my daughter (which was also fine with me). The following morning she was supposed have worked at 12:00 noon (it was raining and her job is subject to the weather).

My stepson and I does not have a close relationship, sometimes I feel he hates me. My husband was at a meeting and couldn't pick up his son. Yesterday I got the honor of picking up my stepson from school. I was anticipating a sad and angry face from him when he sees me picking him up. But I was wrong, he was happy to see me and my daughter. I was relieved and happy. I tried talking to him more and he was such a good boy yesterday, I couldn't believe it, he wasn't ignoring me for once! What a change.