Once again BM refuses to read the CO and asks if DH has the skids for the holidays. She texts DH yesterday this demanding text message that says "I need to know if you have the kids for thanksgiving you need to give this message your prompt attention and answer it in a by the end of the day because I need to know right away!" LOL She is a piece of work. Hello check the freaking CO and you would know. Why does she feel that DH still has to spoon feed her through life!? DH and I were both laughing about it and he told me that he ignored her.
Update on OSS Drama....So this past weekend it was DH's weekend to have the skids so of course nothing happened to OSS but DH talking to him about how important it is not to talk back to adults or have an attitude. Yeah he really is going to learn something from just being talked to about it. LOL
So DH and I went to therapy last night and he brought up the fact that OSS cussed out a teacher. After he was done telling the psychologist what happened I told her I have no idea why he is telling you about this situation when he doesn't discipline or follow through with consequences for his kid. The psychologist asked DH if there was something that he was willing to work on and he said yes. I will believe it when I see it though.
DH got a phone call yesterday that OSS got in trouble for cussing at a teacher. I will just sit back and let the drama unfold because BM and DH both let OSS do whatever he wants and he has no consequences. I didn't say anything when DH told me that yesterday. Not my kid, not my problem! I just said oh well I hope everything works out and then walked off! LOL
So apparently my DH forgot that he was supposed to pick up the skids yesterday. I had just got off of work and get a text from him telling me that he is going to deal with a customer and has to drive out to his place to talk to him about 45 minutes away. I ask him aren't you supposed to pick up the skids today? He says yes, he asks me if I can do it and I tell him I would rather not because I don't want to deal with BM or the skids today. He asks can I please pick them up?
I really do not like my OSS. I honestly think that the feeling is mutual because every time he comes over for DH's visitation he makes snide comments towards me. I know that teenagers can be difficult and have smart mouths however, I just think this kid say things and does things on purpose towards me.
So I haven't documented anything in a long time so here goes. BM has been quiet for awhile now which is one reason why I haven't blogged anything lately. But, some stuff happened over the weekend and I just some support. I told my DH how I truly felt about OSS and he really didn't say anything at that time and this was last Friday then on Saturday I went to a concert with my friends and he decided to come along.
I haven't posted in awhile so here it is. Everything has gone back to normal and my anxiety isn't as bad as it was because OSS isn't wreaking havoc right now since he went back to BM's. DH and I had our first appointment yesterday with the psychologist and it was as I expected. He said that he can't change OSS and that he is just like BM. The psychologist asked him how it made him feel to hear me say all these horrible things about his son and he said that it didn't bother him.
The skids go back to BM's on June 30th thank the lord! OSS eats everything in sight though and I mean stuff that I have bought with my own money. I told my DH last night that I am going to put sticky notes on my food so that he doesn't eat it even though he has been told time and again not to touch the food that is still in the grocery bags in the fridge. I keep the other food in my room. I just think it's ridiculous that this kid cannot listen to simple instructions and respect other people's things but then again that is not his fault it's the parents fault.
I think that my DH isn't going to make the skids respect anyone so it's probably just better that I not say anything at all when they do the crap that they do. Like to instance, not acknowledge anyone when they walk into our house. They both act like I don't exist so I should probably not care and do the same with them right? I mean we all know trying to get my DH to teach the skids something is a complete loss. So is this part of disengaging acting like someone doesn't exist in your house?