Update..and I just need some support please! OSS is a manipulative liar and DH admitted that he was a mini me of BM! MIL is still here. Get this! She asks me why I am keeping one of my frying pans? I asked why do you ask? She says well it's scratched and that mean it's poisonous. Then she throw it in the trash can right in front of me! I just was in shock and I went and got it out of the trash. She asked me if she crossed a boundary? I said yes you did and you need to just stay away from me! When my DH got home I told him what happened and he told MIL not to touch my stuff.
This weekend sucked without no AC however, we are getting a new one tomorrow Yesterday, I was out doing yardwork in the front yard. DH had an appointment with a client. All of the sudden I see BM pull up next to the driveway in her BMW and out walks OSS. I am just sitting there with my arms crossed glaring at both of them. BM and OSS know very well that she is not allowed at our house. I think that they were just both trying to set me up for failure.
So... When I got home from work last night I found a whole box of macaroni and cheese wasted in the trash can. I knew it was OSS and I asked him did he waste the macaroni and cheese and why? He said no he didn't I said you are the only one that wastes it don't lie to me. DH was at some appointment with a client and took YSS with him so he wasn't there when this was all happening.
So yesterday our AC broke and there is no food in our house because I refuse to buy groceries for the skids. Am I wrong to feel that the skids just go back to BM's because my DH simply cannot afford to feed them and now our AC is broke? If I tell him that I feel the skids should go back BM's it will be World War 3. I mean the truth is I cannot tolerate them for long periods of time but, I feel that it's not fair to them to make them stay here and not be able to enjoy their summer. They don't need to suffer any more than we do.
I have come to the conclusion that my DH will never change and neither will the skids so I can either live with it or leave. DH has told the skids that if they eat all the junk food that they were SOL until the next grocery trip. So when I get home from work yesterday here comes YSS asking me if I can buy him more lunchables. I told him I cannot you will have to wait until the next grocery trip which will be on Friday. He just looks at me with this blank stare then walks off. Then I told DH that we need to go to counseling to try to work out our problems.
Skids are at our house for the summer as of Friday, 5-31 and BM was sure happy to past them off because she texted DH that he could pick them up early if he wanted to and he did of course. When I get home DH asks me if I was going to the grocery store and I tell him yes I am but you need to give me some money so he did.
Skids are at our house for the summer as if Friday, 5-31 and BM was sure happy to past them off because she texted DH that he could pick them up early if he wanted to and he did of course. When I get home DH asks me if I was going to the grocery store and I tell him yes I am but you need to give me some money so he did.
Ok so here's update...DH informs me yesterday and MIL is coming on June 15th for a week since he will have the skids for his summer visitation. Then he tells me that she is going to paint our house. Doesn't ask me just tells me that she told him that she decided that she was going to paint our house. I told him actually no she's not painting our house because it's my decision as well as his what happens with our house. I am used to this kind of crap so I just told my DH that MIL is not going to paint our house and that if she wants to help with something then she needs to ask first.
The countdown begins and the step spawn will be staying for a month at our house. My anxiety is heightened and our grocery is going to double. I will not ask my DH to not take his kids for his summer visitation but I am the only one working and I am not paying for them to eat us out of house and home. DH is trying to get his own business running and I am paying most of the bills as it is. I just feel that it is not fair to me. Am I wrong to feel this way? How do you deal with a situation like this?
So...this actually happened....Tuesday, 5/14 was my dad's birthday and my DH and I got home around 9:00 pm from celebrating it and we find an empty motor oil bottle and someone had poured motor oil all over our drive way. Fast forward to yesterday Friday, 5/17 I see this burned piece of paper in my kitchen with my DH's ex girlfriend's sons name on it. I recognized the name and immediately know who it is because both the psycho ex girlfriend and her psycho son left a bunch of crap here at our house when I moved in.