Over the weekend 60-70 students rioted on staff and sheriff deputies who responded to the middle school basketball game in Vancouver, WA.

From my personal opinion this situation comes as no surprise to me. It feels like a more extreme version of what I see in my own home almost every day. Kids disrespecting authority and parents saying their kid would never do that they have a great kid. If my SD was there I'm sure she would have been one of those kids right in the middle of it then denying she was part of it. 

Every Monday DH gives SD16 money to buy food while she is at school. They have off campus for lunch. I've said she gets free meals at the school or she could pack a lunch from what we have but she says the food at school is gross and says she doesnt want a lunch from home so he keeps giving her money. Then we get a bill from the school for $180 owed for school meals. I call the district office and speak to the Nutritionist. Turns out I messed up and the free meals expired in October of last year. The account shows breakfast and lunch nearly everyday.

I disengaged a few weeks and after a rocky start it was smoothing out ok. Then in a passive moment tonight when I had plans to go to store DH said SD16 needed to go too to get a sketchpad for school and I felt like I was put on the spot and she would have heard me say no and it would cause a big fight. So I took SD with me and DS8. (DS is homeschooled and we don't get out often.)

Its hard for some people to understand the cruel behavior of SD16. They see a kid that is very outgoing, involved in sports, goes to youth group, gets all A's and B's, and keeps her room clean. In DH's eyes its proof that she is doing just fine and I'm probably overreacting. When he got her grades in the mail recently i agreed with him that they were very good grades.  Still he had to find ways to ask me again what I thought of them. I was like I already told you she got very good grades. I said she worked hard and she should be proud. It was getting really annoying.