This is very embarassing. I hope I'm not the only one. I have to admit that I did the paperwork and guided DH in getting custody of SD. I did the research, navigated the court system, figured out how to get papers served on a parent with no address, ordered copies of past court orders, etc. He just had to be the one at the courthouse. He did do quite a bit of work and got help from family court assistance, although he wouldn't have known that resource existed and where it was if I didn't tell him.
Now I'm on here all the time ranting about step hell when in a way I kind of asked for it. Our family would still be chaotic either way probably with the weekends every two weeks schedule. I just thought it would be easier if we had her all the time. I shouldn't have tried to fix things that I didn't break and wasn't my responsibility to fix.